Kelley Olinger - Taming Your Financial Demons

August 1, 2017

Money. Whether you like talking about it or hate talking about it, the simple fact is money matters. And it matters most when you’re in over your head in debt, swimming in declined credit cards and past due payments. No one knows the humiliation of having a credit card declined in front of friends and family quite like today’s guest, Kelley Olinger, who made a nasty habit of spending more than she earned (even when she was earning a lot!). Today on the She Rises Podcast, Kelley sits down with Giovanna to take a deep dive into the issue of money, and how budgeting is one of those key life skills rarely taught. They will also cover what it’s like growing up with a scarcity mindset, how people can suddenly become irresponsible with their funds, and how you can start climbing out from the pit of debt by making a few simple lifestyle changes.

  • Today’s guest is Kelley Olinger
  • Kelley is the first money guru on the show
  • Learning the hard way is how Kelley created the passion for what she does now
  • Started at residential real estate as an independent contractor
    • Got a mentor to help her with the business
    • But she didn’t learn how to manage the money she was earning
  • Overtime, her debt piled up because of credit cards
    • She couldn’t figure out what went missing and ended up with $77K of consumer debt
    • There was nothing left for her to borrow and nobody knew what was happening to her
  • A friend asked her to write on a piece of paper the amount she owed
    • Her friend, then asked her to write down her expenses
    • Kelley’s friend tried to help her cut down her expenses
    • The internal energy Kelley absorbed from her friend’s push helped her forward
  • Kelley admitted she didn’t know how to manage the money she was earning
    • She wasn’t a bad person—she just didn’t understand the concept of money
  • Most schools and households don’t teach their students/kids about money
  • Always be willing to admit your mistake and ask for help
  • Giovanna grew up in a scarcity mentality
    • Her parents were children from the great depression
    • Their experience made them cautious and fearful about money
    • Giovanna’s parents always argued about money
    • It was a toxic environment at home because of money
  • At 18, Giovanna’s parents went to Italy for vacation
    • She and her sister stayed at home and they were responsible with the bills
    • Giovanna saw how much money her father had in his bankbook
    • She was so angry because of her dad’s behavior of injecting fear of running out of money
  • Kelley never told her mom what was happening to her because her dad had cancer
  • Helping people get out of trouble does NOT create resilience
  • Kelley’s internal energy change played a huge role in helping her get out of debt
  • She worked 2 jobs – she worked in a development company during the day and worked as a server at night
    • Transitioning to work as a server made her feel like she failed in real estate
    • But, she was able to pay off her debts in 1 year and 10 months
  • In real estate, some of Kelley’s clients won’t let her get too close and some will tell her everything
    • The closer Kelley gets to her client, the better she can help them
  • Money needs to be aligned with personal goals
    • Even vet bills and vacation expenses are overlooked
    • Plan for the unplanned
    • When money has a purpose, creating it or finding room for it becomes easier
  • Trim on the expenses that you don’t really care for
  • Spend on the things that you really want
  • People get creative and resourceful when they have a goal to fund
    • If you don’t have a net, you’re forced to figure it out
  • Working with couples is absolutely challenging for Kelley
    • When couples reach out to Kelley, it’s a good sign that they BOTH want to fix something
    • You have to find out the end goal of the couple—that’s the common denominator where budgeting can start
  • A lot of people are arbitrarily freaking out about money because they don’t know their end goal
    • The fear to spend is usually rooted in something
  • Kelley helps couples build their savings for 1 to 2 months and then use the excess to fund something else
  • Getting plan in place is what kills the fear off
  • When you’re in fear, your creative thinking shuts down
  • In order to move forward from debt, find somebody who isn’t a “rescue”
    • Share your problem to a person who will not bail you out
    • Learn more about your personal finance and find the gap
    • Figure out what bigger goals you have
    • Budgeting is crucial in getting back on track
  • Check out the She Rises website
  • End of today’s podcast

3 Key Points:

  1. We all make financial mistakes—get open and honest with yours, and then move forward accordingly. Ask for help if you need it.
  2. Look at your expenses objectively—what do you need versus what do you like versus what can you completely do without?
  3. Learning how to work with a budget takes time, but if you learn how to do it, your life will be forever changed for the better.

Resources Mentioned:

Reconcile Your Wallet – Kelley’s website

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Mary Shores – The Power of Language

July 28, 2017

Mary Shores is the founder and CEO of a multi-million dollar business, one of the most unique collection agencies in the country. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, Mary has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to inspire others, create new ways of thinking, identify and achieve their goals, and take action to create truly meaningful results. She is the revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking Conscious Communications system, which produces positive results through positive action. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.

Choice—it’s something many of us forget we have. The choices we make are bricks, bricks that can be used to pave a road heading towards our goals or away from them. But making the right choice isn’t always easy. It takes alignment. It takes affirmation. It requires a willingness to look at situation objectively and say, is this a choice that will cleanse my life or clog it? And no one knows this better than today’s guest, Mary Shores. An author, entrepreneur, and firm believer in the power of positive thinking, get ready to hear Mary discuss the power of gratitude, the danger of disempowering thought, and the concept of cleansing versus clogging.

  • Mary’s book Conscious Communications is a spiritual journey of self

    • Mary always wanted to write a book
  • Prior to publishing her book, Mary was the CEO of a debt collection agency
  • The question she constantly asked herself: “How am I going to take the spiritual path when my career is in conflict with it?”
    • Eventually Mary realized she needed to bring her eternal gift to the debt collection’s industry
  • It started with making people feel good about paying their debt
  • Mary’s publisher is Hay House
    • Hay House won’t publish business books so Mary wrote a personal development book
  • On Mary’s journey to enlightenment, she came to understand a lot of things
    • The true meaning of alignment: getting your focus, thoughts, feelings, actions and words going in the direction of your goals and dreams

      • The concept of alignment is very important for Mary
    • The ‘Power of Now’
      • The Power of Now is tied to choice
      • Every choice you make needs to backed by action
      • Make your choices connect to your dreams
  • One of the chapter in Mary’s book is “To Cleanse or Clog?—That is the Question”
    • Cleansing is about connecting to things that are already in your vibrational escrow

      • Abraham Hicks is famous for his teaching of Law of Attraction where he used term vibrational escrow was used
      • Mary sees Vibrational Escrow as the bank account for life—everything you ever thought of or experienced is stored there
      • We connect to our Vibrational Escrow account through alignment, the Power of Wow, and our choices
    • Mary learned about this idea thanks to Tony Robbins’ Unleash the Power Within
    • Cleanse or clog will work in every area of your life
      • Create a connection or drive a disconnection
    • Before making a choice, ask yourself if it is a cleansing choice or a clogging choice
  • The 80/20 principle
    • In a diet, if 80% is cleansing, you still have room for treat once in a while
    • Make 80% your choices cleansing ones, and you’ll see dramatic changes in your life
  • Bruce Lipton’s The Honeymoon Effect
  • Mary has done tons of research in neuroscience
    • In 1992, Mary’s child was born with severe brain damage
    • There was no internet then, so Mary had to study about brain science by reading books
    • Mary believed there a way to heal her child’s brain
    • We have some neuro pathways in our mind that are created by genetics and some that are created by our experience
  • Neuroplasticity is the ability to rewire our own brain
    • Mary has a couple of chapters in her book that are dedicated to rewiring your brain through affirmation

      • Mary writes new affirmations every day
    • The power of gratitude also helps in rewiring your brain
      • Mary has a Facebook group called Declaring Gratitude
      • People in the group text each other messages of gratitude every a day
      • Doing this creates new neuro pathways—new roads
  • The science of epigenetics
    • Unlock the genes by the virtue of your beliefs
  • Mary noticed a lot of synchronicities between her dreams and her state of alignment
  • When you commit to a coaching exercise in Mary’s book, you’ll notice the chaos and struggle going away
  • Last Mother’s Day weekend, Mary was with her autistic son
    • Desperate to find a summer program that would fit her son’s needs, she reached out to an autism coach who just happened to know all the programs available in Mary’s area

      • Mary believes being connected to that person is the universe’s way of helping her
  • Eventually, alignment will get you connected with your higher intelligence
  • We have to understand that 90% of our thousands of thoughts a day are identical
    • It’s the new thoughts can carry us where we really want to go
    • To harness your thoughts, you have to get into your subconscious
    • To counter fear-based thoughts, we have to tell ourselves empowering thoughts
    • Catch your thought, let go and think of an empowering thought
  • When you have a disempowering thought, your brain secretes chemicals into your body to match the thought
    • These are “feelings”
  • Mary had a book title From Breakdown to Breakthrough
  • Always remember, “I have a choice,” we can choose how we feel
    • When you feel like you’re out of control, think what you can do to feel in control
    • “Your brain is designed to answer questions”
  • For Mary, affirmation is the way we are communicating with our brain and the way we’re giving our brain instruction”
  • Mary has 4 types of affirmation
    • Negative self-talk
    • Releasing your fear of abandonment
    • ‘I am’ statements
      • The statements should be congruent with the truth
    • Asking statements
  • When we talk about affirmation, there are real things happening to your mind
  • Mary’s friend calls her the Rosetta Stone of Manifestation
  • Mary likes to make workbooks so she’s giving away The Night of Dreams workbook
  • Mary’s book is Conscious Communications: Your Step-by-Step Guide to Harnessing the Power of Your Words to Change Your Mind, Your Choices, and Your Life

3 Key Points:

  1. To cleanse or to clog? That question impacts every area of your life, every decision you make. Always ask yourself, is this a cleansing choice or a clogging choice?
  2. Affirmation is how we not only talk to our brain, it’s how we command our brain.
  3. Always remember that you have a choice—you are the master of your fate.

Resources Mentioned:

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Giovanna Capozza - Your Inner GPS – The Ego vs God

July 18, 2017

In today’s busy world, we rarely find a chance to stop, breathe and reflect on the driving forces in our lives. Are we guided by our ego—the part of our mind that is inclined to fear and doubt? Or are we tapping into our inner place—a place where we find strength, peace, and a wisdom for the day? In today’s episode of She Rises, Giovanna takes us into the journey of discovering our own inner GPS (God Positioning System). When we stop, mediate, and look within; we are able to access our GPS and find exactly what we need for the day. Tune-in to learn the value of quiet meditation, what it means to invite the spirit in, and the impetus to act when we know what it is we ought to do.

  • Giovanna is a former homeopathic doctor, holistic nutritionist, and alternative, health-care practitioner who is now a transformational life coach for women
  • The show is dedicated to everyone who seeks to live the best version of themselves
  • For more information and free offers, register at  GiovannaCapozza.com
  • The topic for today is accessing your inner GPS (God Positioning System)
  • Put away your distractions—inhale, exhale, and be present
  • Using breath is one of the most powerful ways to tap into our inner guide
    • Take deep cleansing breaths and be conscious
    • Set an intention of what you would like to take on this call
    • Call your highest guide, your spirit, to guide the way to information
  • Giovanna meditated several times to reflect on how she could bring information to her audience
    • The message to create a radio show came back to her several times
    • This is a part of Giovanna learning to connect with her GPS
  • We are all familiar with “internal battles” that come from self-doubt when we have to make decisions
  • There is an inner place of knowing within you, that is there to be your guide
    • That inner place is waiting for an invitation
  • The reason why we don’t listen to our intuition is because we let our ego mind interject
    • Rationalization is great but NOT at the expense of that inner voice
    • Not listening to our inner voice is one way that we betray ourselves
  • Many years ago, Giovanna’s spiritual teacher said that the key to hearing is to get quiet
    • The spirit cannot speak to us if we’re too busy
    • First thing to practice is finding your quiet time
    • You can be present in the moment when you connect to your body
    • Take time and give yourself the moment you need
  • When your ego is speaking, there will be an emotion attached to it – fear, hesitation, or any emotional charge
  • When you hear a message that has no emotion, that is just peaceful, it’s your GPS
  • When you can find a quiet place and time, just say (in your mind or verbally), “I’m inviting you in”
    • The invitation is like setting the intention
    • Allow your thoughts to pass through – don’t fight them
    • “The mind is always thinking”
    • Our job in meditation is not to stop the thoughts, but to let it pass through us
  • Check yourself at night and see where you were guided in the day
  • Making the invitation is NOT enough, you have to jump into faith and trust, and start taking action
  • Sometimes it takes a long time to find that place of peace
  • Practice taking action
    • We don’t realize that faith is a muscle that you have to use and practice
    • In your morning ritual, remember to take action on what you hear
    • “You take the step and the bridge will appear”
  • Faith is acknowledging that you have a guide leading the way
  • Giovanna is a student of A Course in Miracles
  • “If you knew who walked with you at all times, you’d never have fear”
  • GPS Checklist
    • Get still and quiet – do this at least twice a day
    • Use your breath and breathing
    • Make the invitation
    • Have your pen and paper handy
  • Keep in mind that you may not get something all the time
  • There is a big difference when you’re in alignment with your ego and when you’re in alignment with your inner self
    • When you’re aligned with your ego, you are in fear
    • Anything that is not of peace, joy or love is the ego
    • Ego inhabits our stories and belief systems
    • Without GPS, Ego tends to run our whole life
  • We are not alone – we have GPS as part of our default
    • Doing things all on your own will not get you very far
  • When Giovanna gave herself the experience of tapping in, it made her daily life easier
  • Ego VS God is our subconscious, stories, and fears vs our higher knowledge and guidance system
  • Giovanna takes us through a powerful guided meditation
    • Close your eyes
    • Sit back
    • Give yourself space and time
    • Inhale through the nose, hold, and exhale through the mouth – repeat for a couple of times
    • Mentally scan your body, taking time, and looking for places where there is stiffness and tension
    • Inhale as if there is a white light on your crown – plug into that source
    • See the energy come down to your body and hit the places of tension
    • Allow the energy to stream to your feet
    • You are now present, tuned into the body and your breathing
    • Bring back your thoughts to the present moment
    • Make the invitation to the spirit
    • Did anything change when you made the invitation?
    • Ask a question, for guidance or for information
    • Allow yourself to drop the judgement
    • Once you feel satisfied, express your gratitude and release
    • Take a deep breath, release, open your eyes and return back
  • How was your experience?
  • Develop a relationship to this part of you that is connected to the source
  • Giovanna would love to continue the conversation – send your message to us
  • Check out She Rises website
  • End of today’s podcast

3 Key Points:

  1. GPS or The God Positioning System is our inner, higher self that we can tap into to access peace, love, and rest.
  2. To find your GPS, you need to be willing to set an intention, make an invitation, and take action in what your inner self is telling you.
  3. It’s time for you to develop a relationship to the part of you that is connected to a higher source.

Resources Mentioned:

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Bernardo Mendez-Getting the Love you want

July 14, 2017

Why do women settle in life, in marriage, in relationships? According to today’s guest, Bernardo Mendez, it’s because they lack a sincere understanding of their worth. There is a temptation to settle for less when you don’t quite know what you, YOURSELF, can bring to the table. Bernardo’s greatest passion in life is to help women find this self-worth and the ways to achieve what they really need from within. Tune-in as Bernardo also shares the role energy plays in relationships, why TODAY is the best time to be a woman, and the 3 ways to finding your true light.

  • Today’s episode guest is Bernardo Mendez
  • Relationships are one of Giovanna’s favorite topics
  • Bernardo stepped into relationship coaching because it’s one area that affects everything else in a person’s life
    • It impacts how a person shows up
  • Many people don’t realize that the old paradigm of relationships is not working
  • Bernardo’s decision to start relationship coaching
    • When he finally found something powerful that worked for him, he wanted to share it with people in a meaningful way
    • He started coaching his friends and friends of his friends
    • Working with women is more exciting and challenging than working with men
    • He recognized it was an area that makes a difference for him
    • “The key to fearing out relationships is fearing out yourself”
  • Bernado finds that one of the biggest reasons why single women don’t find the love they want is because they’re not feeling their sense of worth
    • Women are sometimes doubtful of what they bring to the table
    • Giovanna also gets stuck and doubtful in regards to what she brings
  • Bernardo helps women raise their vibrations to a sense of knowing their worth
  • There are two levels of worth: questioning if you’re special enough to do things and being the vessel of a light
  • The purpose of anyone’s gifts and lights is to expand it and share it to other people
  • When someone can hold you in the light of who you are, eventually you start to believe and see it for yourself
  • Bernardo’s work is about helping women find the way to meet their needs that fulfills them in the long-term
  • “‘Void summoning’ literally means that you summon a partner from your void”
  • If we learn to fill the emptiness in ourselves, we don’t have to take the crap that we’re presented with
  • What a man really wants is for a woman to bring her light
    • Giovanna, in the past, felt she had to dim her light
    • She molded to what she thought people wanted her to be
    • How you start a relationship is how it’s going to contain you
  • 2 ways to enter a relationship is by entering full OR by entering with a lesser version of yourself
  • If a man doesn’t want the REAL you, you don’t need him in your life
    • Let go of that thing that hinders you from getting the best that you deserve
    • “Expressing your truth is part of getting uncomfortable at the risk of getting rejected for something better”
    • One goal for adults is to re-parent themselves
    • The most common form of self-love is self-care
    • There are times that you just have to say NO
  • “It’s easy to confuse fear from intuition”
  • There is a lot of growth from discomfort
  • “We’re in a culture that recycles relationships”
  • Figure out what you want, who you must be, how can you step into it, and how you can create fulfilment in the process
  • If you start a relationship from lack, then that’s what you’ll feel
  • Right now is the first time in history that women can have it all
    • “You are not an outcast if you’re not married these days”
    • Bernardo’s grandma’s job description was do everything her husband wanted and to take care of the household and kids
    • Before, women serve their husband and family first and themselves, last
    • Most women prefer to not have to take charge all the time
  • It’s exhausting for feminine energy to be doing masculine activities
    • Women who are more masculine attract more feminine men
    • Masculine, in its truest essence, would be the absence of feeling
    • The healthy masculine has the ability to stand in his truth and listen to his woman when he needs to
    • The healthy feminine has the ability to stand in her truth, be more open, and recognize when she needs to be logical and taking action
    • A man ultimately who’s in his masculine will be happy to serve than to be served
  • Measure in different ways – not in monetary terms
  • Women judge themselves in so many hard ways
  • Men want to feel alive
  • Women help men feel things they cannot feel on their own
  • Finding your light and feeling comfortable in that is the truth of who you are
  • 3 ways to see the light:
    • Be honest with yourself in terms of where you are
    • Find a way to increase your light
    • Get support
      • Mentorship is the highest and quickest form for change
    • Time is your main drawback
    • There will be ups and downs, everyday
    • What you’ll do will be a decision of commitment
    • Leave your comments on She Rises website
    • Connect with Bernardo on his website
    • End of today’s podcast

 

3 Key Points:

  1. Women do NOT need to depend on men for identifying who they ARE and what they are capable of.
  2. One way to start increasing your self-worth is to take care of and LOVE yourself.
  3. Find your light—the truth of who you are—and share that to the world.

 

Resources Mentioned:

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Brandilyn Tebo - Is Perfectionism Killing You?

July 4, 2017

Brandilyn Tebo is an acclaimed transformational coach, writer and speaker. Once a type-A perfectionist who struggled with anorexia, she knows firsthand how destructive attachment to external validation can be. Through years of inner work and deep meditation, coach trainings, and the study of eastern and western transformational philosophies, she learned how amazing life can be once you let go of fear, limiting beliefs and false identification with achievements. She has traveled the world to teach empowering workshops in high schools, prisons, Fortune 500 companies and colleges. Today, she coaches clients on how to remove internal barriers to following their hearts and be the fullest expression of themselves!

There are many reasons why we do the things we do. Perhaps we’re in a job that we don’t actually feel passionate about, but we excel at and are validated day-in, day-out. This validation fuels our perception of ourselves. We feel needed, important; perhaps, even loved because of the things that we do. But, the question is: are we making decisions from a place of our insecurities or are we motivated from a place of passion and inspiration?

Today’s guest, Brandilyn Tebo began as a model who found herself chasing the validation of others to the point she was not even present in life. She decided to take a turn, find help for the damage she caused her body and mind, and became a transformational coach. Tune-in as she shares about her journey and how she encourages her clients to find their “should” and live and breathe from a place of inspiration.

  • Today’s episode guest is Brandilyn Tebo
  • Brandilyn is a transformational coach and she hosts workshops and retreats
  • Brandilyn is also writer and is in the process of writing a journal
  • Brandilyn approaches transformation in different ways
  • Prior to being a transformational coach, Brandilyn was constantly doing things just to feel better about herself
    • It manifested on Brandilyn’s previous job as a model where she became anorexic
    • One day, Brandilyn realized that she wasn’t present in life and was only thinking of other people’s perception of her
    • Brandilyn had therapy for her eating disorder and her therapist encouraged her to explore spirituality
  • Brandilyn started coaching to share what she’s learned and wanted to help in changing people’s lives; she was doing it for free for a while
    • Brandilyn realized that coaching and transforming lives was what she wanted to do
    • Brandilyn left the corporate world to become an entrepreneur
    • Brandilyn developed her program and workshops and started coaching online
  • Brandilyn was at a point where she doesn’t want to go back to school because she was an overachiever
  • Brandilyn’s mission is to help people find their “should”
  • Brandilyn now has a client who’s doing something because of the validation she gets from it
    • The client is doing really good at her job
    • The client’s dream is actually to make a difference in someone’s life
    • The client turned down her promotion, quit her job and went to just trusting what she really wanted
    • What’s in front of us now constrains us from what we really want
    • Brandilyn told her client that her understanding of herself will change drastically if she turns down the promotion
    • Brandilyn and her client talked about the possibilities for her client now that she quit her job
    • In just 4 days, the client received an offer of a job that she really wanted
  • Don’t be afraid if your coach tells you to quit your job
  • We are scared to admit that we’re afraid of letting go of something that is our sense of security
    • When we’re attached to what we think we’re supposed to be or do; we think that if we let go of that, we lose love
    • The fear keeps us in a prison
    • When we identify ourselves to the title, the money and other things, we think that these are the reasons why people love us
    • When we let go of that identity that we think we should have, we realize that those aren’t the reasons why we are loved
    • People love us not because of what we have
  • The cure to trick the ego is to surrender
  • When we stop making choices out of fear, we get connected with our true inspiration
    • “You can’t hate yourself for having a life that you love”
  • We stay upset because we think that being upset is productive
    • The most productive thing in the world is to live from your inspirations
  • We have to deprogram fear
    • 99% of the fear that we have isn’t actually happening
  • There are people who are in dire survival situations where vigilance and fear is appropriate
    • However, the listeners don’t live in those kinds of circumstances
  • Trusting the body and trusting life
    • Giovanna doesn’t trust her body to do what it is supposed to do to get healthy
    • Giovanna’s has had back issues for a year now
  • We are under the illusion that we can control things
    • It is pointless to try to be in control
    • We constantly just have to surrender
    • Trust that you’re alive and the forces are working within your favor
    • The more we resist, the more we’re giving away our power to circumstances
    • We resist reality when we shouldn’t
  • When we accept what is, it opens up space for creativity to come in
  • Brandilyn would write to herself
  • Why this is happening to me instead of why this is happening for me
  • The little shift that happens doesn’t have to have a reason
    • “You don’t have to know why”
    • Trust that you’re in a place because you are supposed to be there
  • The privilege gift is when we hang onto struggle and hardships as a weird form of empathy
  • Victim consciousness is when you become a victim of what’s happening to you
  • We would sometimes feel guilty when things aren’t going well with our family
    • We think that insecurities, doubts and complaints are ways to connect with people
  • We shift our focus to others
    • The paradox of caring for others is caring for ourselves
  • When we hyper obsess with our own imperfections, we’re transmitting that and it isn’t helping
    • You have to be real with your feelings
  • Brandilyn has “the word vomit” exercise where people can complain
    • We just need to let out our complaints
  • Giovanna likes that Brandilyn asks permission from the person she wants to complain to
    • You should be responsible for the energy you bring into the room
  • Have fun with complaining and let the other person let it out to if he wants to
  • The spiritual bypass
    • There are ways of complaining and venting in a healthy way
    • We can let perfectionism run through everything
  • Brandilyn was doing a campaign
    • Brandilyn used to have rashes on her head whenever she was stressed in the corporate world
    • Brandilyn’s head suddenly got itchy and she knew there was something that she needed to let out
    • Brandilyn actually had lice
  • Giovanna has also done a spiritual bypass
    • Part of the reality is our physical body
  • We sometimes just take ourselves too seriously
  • “You don’t need to just sit there and accept everything”
  • Give yourself the freedom to choose
  • We don’t need to be justified in following our heart
  • Visit Brandilyn’s website
  • Check out She Rises website!

3 Key Points:

  1. Find your “should”; your validation or love should not come from what you do or offer to others.
  2. Complaining and venting out can be done in a healthy way – asking one’s permission first to vent is a great way to respect that person.
  3. You have the freedom to choose; you don’t need to justify following your heart.

 

Resources Mentioned:

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Crystal Andrus Morissette – Life and Power After Tragedy

June 21, 2017

From life as a homeless teen to coaching A-List celebrities, from developing abs of steel and competing in the Miss Galaxy pageant to weighing 220 pounds after becoming a mother, Emotional Age and communication expert and women’s advocate Crystal Andrus Morissette is now a worldwide leader in the field of self-discovery and personal transformation. A media darling, she has been called upon by Oprah, CBS, FOX, the Daily Mail and more. Crystal is the founder of the S.W.A.T. Institute (Simply Woman Accredited Trainer), an empowerment coach certification exclusively for women that she created with fellow female visionaries such as Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson and Dr. Christiane Northrup. She is the author of four best-selling books, including her latest release, “The Emotional Edge.” She is also certified in nutrition and sports medicine.

A woman’s past does not determine her future – today’s guest is proof of this very truth. Crystal Andrus came from a very difficult past—after her parents’ divorce, she experienced many trials including sexual abuse and blows to her physical health. She had a choice of whether she would remain as a victim or rise up to who she has become now—a leading voice in self-discovery and personal transformation. In this episode, Giovanna welcomes Crystal Andrus. Tune-in as Crystal shares about her journey of forgiveness and surrender. She also discusses key lessons that have changed her life including the concept of the Holy Spirit in our lives, mindfulness, and self-love.

  • Today’s episode guest is Crystal Andrus
  • Crystal is the author of the books, Simply… Empowered!: Discover How to Create and Sustain Success in Every Area of Your Life..Woman!: The 12-Week Body/Mind/Soul Total Transformation Program and Transcendent Beauty: It Begins with a Single Choice…to Be!
  • She is a worldwide leader in the field of self-discovery and personal transformation
  • She is the CEO and founder of Crystal Andrus Production and the W.A.T. Institute
  • Crystal believes it’s important to learn the lesson from a story
  • For Crystal, being introduced to the concept of the Holy Spirit made her feel important and loved
  • Grace comes from a higher level of consciousness
  • Crystal’s parents divorced when she was 12 years old
    • Being a wounded woman herself, her mom put Crystal and her siblings in harm’s way many times
    • Crystal experienced a lot of sexual abuse and rape because of her mom’s choices
    • Her mom kicked her out of the house at 15 and so she lived alone
    • “I went through way too many years of being a victim”
  • At 17, something clicked, and Crystal believed it was the Holy Spirit telling her to make a change
    • She went to have herself checked and found out she had an STD and early signs of cervical cancer
    • She went through a couple of years of dealing with cervical cancer alone as a teenager
    • At 21, Crystal had a traumatic head injury
    • She made a change in her 20s
    • She had kids at age 25 and it opened her heart to love and experience more love
    • Having kids was an epiphany for Crystal
    • She left her marriage later on
    • Crystal is now the happiest she has ever been
  • “Talking about your past all the time doesn’t mean you’ll know yourself better”
    • Have the courage to stop getting caught up in the blame
    • Make peace with your past
    • Allow yourself to be guided
  • People misunderstand the true meaning of surrendering – it’s seeking truth over compliance
    • Let go and follow the signs, they’re there
    • Take advantage of the circumstances
    • Don’t mistake signs for fear
  • The first lesson in the book, A Course in Miracles, is “Nothing I See Means Anything”
    • Our purpose here on Earth is to expand our lives
    • If you desire is powerful enough, it won’t contract
    • Giovanna feels empowered because she can trust herself and her higher self
  • “We have a long way to go for the empowerment of women”
    • Dalai Lama said, “The western woman would heal the world”
    • Women have the ability to expand their consciousness
  • Crystal told her husband she wanted to be his equal
    • Don’t be power-hungry
    • Women are in uncharted territory
    • In many countries, a woman is a domestic commodity
    • A woman’s true place of power comes from love
  • Crystal’s new book that is launching in Dec 2017, took 3 years to write
  • Giovanna is developing a program called The Shadow Self
  • The reason God gave us free will is because it’s the only way to expand our consciousness and to have the option or the duality of both dark and light
  • Self-loathing is what robs a person’s empowerment
  • It’s easy to love yourself when you’re in a place where life is great; it’s when you’re down that you have to love yourself more
    • Love yourself in every age and stage
  • Exercise sparks the brain, keeps you young and healthy, and helps fight depression
    • Your body is the container of your life
    • If your joy comes from the appearance of the container, you’re robbing yourself so many great experiences
    • The quest is to love yourself inspite of…
  • Your mind is so brilliant that it only allows you to process a certain amount of activity at a time
  • Give voice to your buried emotions to let it go
  • “What you resist will persist”
  • “We are not meant to be perfect. We’re meant to be whole”
  • Crystal’s new book’s working title is The Emotional Edge
    • The Emotional Age is a concept that Crystal created in her book where there is an empowerment spectrum and a person can look up to see what age they fall into
  • Everybody has their own idea of what they need
  • Right now, Crystal is enlightened by the fact that she doesn’t have any rituals anymore
    • When she gets off track, she makes sure she exercises everyday and hydrates herself
    • Crystal is not fanatical about her weight anymore
    • One of Giovanna’s rituals is waking up and intentionally making something for herself
    • Crystal understand rituals for the sake of mindfulness
    • The point of rituals is to be present
  • Create a life where everything is meshed together for you
  • Visit Crystal’s website
  • Check out She Rises website!

3 Key Points:

  1. Your past is NOT what defines your future—therefore, make peace with the past so you can move on.
  2. Love yourself regardless of whether life is great or very difficult.
  3. “We are not meant to be perfect. We are meant to be whole.”

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Jivi Saran – Your Corporate Soul

June 18, 2017

A true Corporate Mentalist, Author Jivi Saran uses insightful business strategy, her highly developed observational skills, and mental perception of thought processes for discerning the truth about an organizational team to gain powerful creativity, focus and productivity. She has an extraordinary mind for improving conditions across an organization and has developed some of the most sophisticated and powerful models of Leadership, Organizational Strategy and Mindset Improvement through her Corporate Soul program.  Jivi Saran and her unique set of skills and offerings is changing the game for organizations around the world and is revolutionizing the way organizations create business strategy.

In this episode, Giovanna interviews Jivi Saran. Jivi describes herself as a corporate mentalist. She uses insightful business strategy, highly developed observational skills, and the mental perception of thought processes for discerning the truth about an organizational team. The aim in this is to gain powerful creativity, focus, and productivity. Listen as Jivi shares what a corporate mentalist is, what a corporate mentalist can offer your workplace, and why it’s important for leaders in the workplace to understand the whole person when it comes to their employees.

  • Today’s episode guest is Jivi Saran
  • Jivi is a corporate mentalist
  • Her background is in healthcare and she spent 3 decades in strategic leadership roles
  • She had the luxury of experimenting with a particular team to ensure they were performing at their highest
    • While she was experimenting, Jivi was also in a spiritual journey herself
    • Jivi got intrigued by who she was in the workplace
    • She found out that people were not leaving their problems at home
    • In her last decade of work, she experimented with what it would look like if people accepted the whole person in the workplace
    • It started a 6-year project where Jivi started a mindfulness program
    • As they nurtured the individual, the individual started to nurture the business strategy
    • Their program allowed people to be authentic and creative
  • 2 years ago, Jivi left her role in healthcare to be a corporate mentalist
  • The idea of leaving your problems at home is unrealistic
    • “We are human beings…it’s very difficult to compartmentalize”
  • Jivi’s Corporate Soul Program
    • The soul is an immortal legacy
    • It is what is left behind after your leadership
  • The greatest challenge around Jivi’s work is people’s perception that her programs are luxury items
    • “This is not luxury”
    • What you see in the workplace as poor performance is a symptom of people’s personal problems and the issues that they’re bringing to work
    • If you don’t get to the root, you’ll end up hiring consultant after consultant
    • Jivi educates leaders; it is not a luxury to have a mindfulness program for your employees
    • “This is a necessity in the organization”
  • People usually relate soul to something religious
  • We nurture people as the physical being in the employee benefit program, but how do we nurture them as energy beings?
  • Not everyone can be entrepreneurs, but there’s no reason we shouldn’t be happy where we are
    • Accept where you’re at in that moment of time
    • People use “I’m busy” as a fashion statement
    • As human beings, we are all here to take part in project Earth
    • This isn’t about you or me – it’s about something so much greater
    • Jivi responds to stress by having nausea
    • When you’re working with a leader who is in tune, soul becomes a part of their leadership strategy
  • Realistically, managers are not really trained to help their employees in that regard
    • It’s important to recognize that heart-centered conversations are not off-the-table in leadership
    • “If you do what you do, you get what you get”
    • Speak from the heart and start from kindness in every conversation
    • What you will say if you have 5 minutes to live is probably different from what your ego is telling you
    • Take a step back and pause before speaking
  • Our worklife is no different than our personal life – both comes down to choice
    • People don’t realize how toxic their situation is until physical symptoms arise
    • You have a choice – you choose to stay or not
    • Don’t get stuck in fear
    • Be smart, make a plan, and get some coaching – you only have one life to live
  • Jivi shares how all this began for her
    • She thinks it started out in Grade 4
    • She had an arranged marriage at 16 and divorced after 20 years
    • She felt she was living a different identity
    • She started a journey to search for answers
    • The answer was for Jivi to do the work!
    • Jivi was tired of the search and felt she needed to connect with her soulscript – which was the missing link
  • Powerful questions are questions like “What gives you the greatest joy?”
    • Lead with recognizing your body’s “expiry date”
    • Jivi’s feeling of liveliness comes from a place of joy
    • Define what you’re wanting to do—this is your means to getting to that end goal
    • If your means consume your entire time, there’s no possible way you can live from a place of joy
    • We forget about ourselves
  • Jivi’s course, The Corporate Soul Program, is about building wealth with a different intention
  • Visit the She Rises website!

3 Key Points:

  1. Be happy where you are – accept who you are and where you are at in this moment of time.
  2. Speak from your heart and with kindness at the beginning of every conversation.
  3. Live from a place of joy; part of this is taking time to care for yourself.
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Lisa Natoli – A Course in Miracles: Relationships

June 12, 2017

I LOVE the topic of relationships, in fact of all the coaching that I do, relationship coaching is the most powerful and fulfilling of all!

To be a guide to others and bare witness to radical transformation is blessing and a gift.

Today I revisit this topic in an interview I gave back in 2015 with one of my spiritual teachers Lisa Natoli.

Lisa Natoli is a minister, teacher and healer. She is the author of the best-selling book Gorgeous for God and founder of the 40-Day Program for Transformation, a free online program. She writes and teaches on the topics of transformation, healing and abundance. She is co-founder of the nonprofit organization Teachers of God Foundation which inspires, encourages and supports individuals to go through the transformation from fear to love. She co-hosts a weekly radio show on Unity Online Radio called Living in Joy/Reflections on A Course in Miracles that airs every Friday afternoon at 3pm EST.

In this episode, Giovanna welcomes Lisa Natoli to the show. Lisa is a minister, teacher and healer whose main focus is in the area of relationships—a harmonious relationship with one’s self, God, and with others. She opens up about her own broken history in relationships which led to her finding a partner in Jesus. Out of her commitment to her faith and the fullness of love that she found through forgiveness, Lisa was able to open herself up to a new relationship and express to herself what she really wanted. Tune in to find out the miracle of forgiveness, the importance of the Holy Spirit in relationships, and what can happen when you choose to love yourself and God first…

  • Today’s episode guest is Lisa Natoli
  • Lisa is a minister, teacher and healer
  • She also co hosts a radio show, Living in Joy / Reflections on A Course in Miracles
  • It’s important for people to relate to each other
    • Everything is relationships
    • “Love addiction” is a good thing
    • Giovanna finds that there’s a lot of confusion in relationships
    • It was a revelation for Giovanna to see and understand the element of give and take in relationships
  • Lisa lives a luxurious life in Christ and is totally in love with reckless abandon
  • Just like everybody else, Lisa came from relationships that didn’t work
  • Start with your relationship with yourself
  • Lisa believes everything is about prayer
    • The first step to having harmonious relationships is to have one with yourself and with God
    • Accept your new beginning and be willing to do the work
    • If God is not there, people tend to lean on another person to fulfill the need for love in us
    • The starting point is the moment you make a decision to have a new life
    • Most people think other people should change
  • Lisa’s first husband was incredible but when she looked at the marriage, she really didn’t feel complete
    • When they got a divorce, Lisa said she’d never be in a relationship anymore
    • Summer 2010, Lisa felt deep in her heart that she did want a relationship but thought it wouldn’t work out for her anymore
    • Ask for what you want in your heart
    • Lisa believed she had the most amazing partner ever – Jesus
    • She immediately changed and started taking care of herself
    • She loved her life and then a relationship came – she fell in love with her 2nd husband, Bill
    • Come to a place of wholeness and completion; to a place where you are full of love
    • Don’t wait for a partner to feel complete
  • Draw your circle, stand in it, and let everything come to you
    • The training that leads to transformation is to allow the blocks and obstacles to come into full awareness
    • The real work is finding the points of depression, anger, and fear and dissolving it into forgiveness
    • Remember the truth
  • Ego Love vs. Love of God
  • A Course in Miracles is really a course on how to forgive
  • The Mystical Third
    • The first point of change is inviting the Holy Spirit in
    • Open your mind and allow yourself to have experience with the power and presence of the Holy Spirit
    • Lisa shares about conflict between herself and her mother over a ring
    • Giovanna introduces Bill, Lisa’s husband
    • “The importance of inviting the Holy Spirit to a relationship is everything”
    • Invite the Holy Spirit to transform your relationship
    • A lot of people have partners who are not on a spiritual path
    • See that God is opening your partner’s heart and mind while you do your own work
    • Trust that this person will step up
    • Doing your own work makes everything easy
  • “It’s very difficult if you don’t have the training”
  • A Course in Miracles is a way to be happy
    • “It’s a map with very specific detailed instructions”
    • There’s a workbook with 365 lessons
    • A human being lives in fear
    • The course is a direct experience of your divine nature
    • It’s not about religion – just pure content
    • Lisa never thought she would marry again, but she believed there was someone God had for her
    • She had a list of things she wanted in a man and everything in the list was met by Bill
  • Be clear about what you want
  • Whatever you fear, you’re going to create
  • Get Lisa’s book, Gorgeous for God
  • Check out She Rises website!

3 Key Points:

  1. Having harmonious relationships with others begins with having a harmonious relationship with one’s self and with God.
  2. You need to let go of what intoxicates your life—depression, anger, fear—let it dissolve into forgiveness.
  3. Be clear on the outcomes that you want for your life and let all other possibilities go.

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Catherine Garceau – Swimming Out of Water

June 5, 2017

Catherine Garceau is an Olympic medalist from Sydney 2000 and the author of Swimming Out of Water. After her career as a synchronized swimmer, which lead her to perform in aquatic shows in Las Vegas, her journey of dealing with disordered eating, hypersensitivities and autoimmune conditions lead her to discover powerful tools and a new purpose – How can top performers and elite achievers be their best WHILE building health and long-term well-being.

Since, she’s helped hundreds of women struggling with similar issues, and is now taking this comprehensive coach/healer model to elite individuals like top athletes who have won Stanley cups, majors in the LPGA, and competed in 2+ Olympic games, and entrepreneurs who are building million dollar companies. Catherine uses EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and other tools including bodywork, to investigate this ‘shadow of achievement’, release limiting patterns, and discover new leverage for growth. Exploring this emotional landscape while activating more presence and proper sequencing in the body is what makes Catherine’s Catalyst Performance System very unique…

In this episode, Giovanna shares the mic with Catherine Garceau, an olympic medalist from Sydney 2000 and the author of Swimming Out of Water. When Catherine retired as a synchronized swimmer, her eating disorder became even more out of control and she knew it was time to focus on her healing. Catherine takes us into her journey of finding the root cause of her eating disorder, hypersensitivities, and autoimmune conditions and how she began to find hope in the power of tapping. Listen in as Catherine shares firsthand knowledge and advice about what it looks like to take ahold of your healing and personal health. You’ll learn what it means to replace negative drivers with positive ones and how finding the root cause of our trauma is the gateway to real change.

  • Today’s guest is Catherine Garceau
  • Catherine ended her swimming career with an olympic medal
    • She was team captain for the following 2 years
    • She hit a wall because of her eating disorder
    • She sought help and was put on Prozac
    • While going through the routine, she heard a voice from above that said, “This is your last swim”
    • Catherine retired that day and called for their sports psychologist to come to the hotel
    • She never had regrets retiring because she thought retirement would help her get better
  • Catherine became more out of control with food and gained more weight
    • Dating a chiropractor led Catherine to start reading healing books and explore what caused her system to overload
    • Going back, she thinks her binge eating problems came from her anxiety; this was a result of her experiencing sexual abuse which she only remembered 4 years ago
    • Catherine wanted sugar all the time, so she went through that cycle of gaining and losing weight
    • Through an investigation of her systems, she found problems in her liver
    • The more she investigated, the more Catherine realized how sensitive she was to chlorine and its by-products
    • She became the champion for bringing healthier filtration systems for pools
    • Unfortunately, a lot of pools cannot afford to change their systems
  • Giovanna shares about how she would test off-gassing for allergies when she had a clinical practice
    • “I really believe that our soul has lessons to lessons”
  • Catherine went to OA (Overeaters Anonymous) for a while
    • Catherine acknowledges “the addict” inside her, but it’s just not what she believes she is
  • Along her journey, she found out about tapping – an energy psychology
  • Tapping is getting a thought or the Big T (trauma)
    • When you tap, you steal negative things and shift the energy
    • Tapping helps people acknowledge the Big T and brings in love and compassion to themselves
    • It helped Catherine on her emotional landscape
    • She felt better after every tapping, but went back to binge-eating again
    • A friend told her to investigate tapping further and that she needed to do it in a certain way; she needed to go back to the original cause
    • Catherine followed that advice and tapping became a powerful tool for her
  • Giovanna learned tapping from a friend who refers to it as holistic EFT
  • Stress shuts down problem-solving in the body
  • Catherine caters to athletes, actors and top-performing professionals
    • Our bodies carry so much memory that we need to use pressure for healing processes
    • Catherine herself is sometimes a skeptic on tapping
    • She uses conversations to segway her clients to tapping
    • “I only believe in what I currently offer because they really created a result”
  • You need to have a goal and a level of certainty and presence, which should come together to be able to win
    • If you take away your negative driver without replacing it with a positive one, you might not be functional
    • Dismantle, but build
  • When you feel stress or doubt, ask yourself when was the worst time or the first time you felt such stress
    • Investigate what really happened when you felt that feeling
    • Your driver is what makes you who you are today
    • Talk to your old self to bring positive energy into your life
    • “It’s not about being broken—it’s about integrating the wholeness of who you are”
  • Catherine has a FREE introduction to tapping for you! Check it out here!
  • Connect with Catherine on Activating High Performance
  • Check out She Rises website!
  • End of today’s podcast

3 Key Points:

  1. A traumatic incident can be the cause of anxiety, stress, and many negative psychological and physiological responses that we may experience; sometimes that traumatic incident lives in our subconscious.
  2. Your problem may never cease unless you get to the root of it.
  3. People focus on removing negative drivers from their lives, but often forget to replace it with a positive driver.

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Emily Bennington - How to Create Miracles at Work

May 29, 2017

In this episode, Giovanna welcomes Emily Bennington to the show. Emily is a bestselling author and a student/teacher of contemplative practices for both secular and spiritual audiences. She has led training programs on mindfulness and composure for numerous Fortune 500 companies and has been featured by CNN, ABC, and Fox, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, Marie Claire, and Cosmopolitan. Emily is the author of three books, including Miracles at Work: Turning Inner Guidance into Outer Influence. Emily is skilled at presenting complex mindfulness and spiritual topics with logical reasoning, professionalism, and inclusiveness. Emily's website was recently listed, by Forbes, as one of the 100 Best Websites for Women and her blog touches thousands of readers.

  • Today’s guest is Emily Bennington
  • Emily was fortunate to have a boss who became a mentor
    • She learned so much from her as a mentor that they wrote the book, Effective Immediately
    • They toured college campuses to talk about transitioning from school to career
  • When Emily started dealing with management, she noticed people would come to her for help
    • Life problems were always present in every person asking for help so Emily would bring in the spiritual aspect as part of her advice
  • She wrote Miracles at Work: Turning Inner Guidance into Outer Influence
    • Her book is about how we dismantle our thought system based on fear and on love
    • Looking at another person and seeing through your differences unfolds the harmonious connections that you have
    • Take your biases out to make your life more peaceful
  • An Internal Miracle is the shift in perception in love
  • A miracle is expression of love to you
  • Giovanna used to compartmentalize spirituality to the point that she felt unfulfilled
  • Like Giovanna, Emily was in the “God Closet”
  • Mindfulness alone is secular
    • Emily felt she was inauthentic teaching spiritual tools when she calls it secular mindfulness
    • Our spiritual life creates a certain reaction to people and we don’t want to offend anyone
    • The wrong is, we tend to conflate spirituality with religion – it’s not the same thing
    • We use competition in our career that yields to what Emily calls, “Snow-Globe Thinking”
    • A true spiritual practice is what clears out the snow
  • Great leaders don’t have to crawl to the top – they’re carried there
  • Magnitude is the idea of seeing yourself created by God and in a state of spiritual perfection
  • Knowing magnitude creates confidence
  • Emily shares an example of magnitude:
    • Emily had a client who was preparing for a big job interview
    • Her client approached the interview with a tremendous amount of nervousness, anger, and resentment
    • Emily encouraged her client saying that if she doesn’t get the job, that it is NOT a reflection or measurement of her worth
    • Her client had an internal shift in perception from fear to love and she got the job
  • Emily has come to a place where she is far less apologetic in her practice of spirituality
  • Giovanna is not fully out of her “God Closet”
    • It was a disservice for Giovanna when she held back
    • Giovanna has seen the transformations and the relationships that have healed
    • “We’re dealing with a practice a lot of people don’t know about”
  • What helped Emily in the course was creating a container
  • Giovanna was introduced to the course from her mentor
    • 15 years ago Giovanna resisted learning from the course
    • The funny thing was, Giovanna kept attending the course and miracles study groups without opening the book
    • She credits her spiritual mentor for recommending her to read the book, The Disappearance of the Universe
  • It wasn’t until about 4 years ago when Giovanna opened the book
    • The Jesus of the course is different from the Biblical Jesus
    • The Biblical Jesus is in alignment with what the course says
    • As Emily was writing her book, she was aware it could kill her speaking career on mindful leadership
    • What’s interesting was Emily got more engagement after her book was written
    • Emily is NOT a scholar of all religions, but all these things are pointing to LOVE
    • “This is a course on how to know yourself”
    • It’s important to know God and to have a relationship with Him
  • You can go through your life in 2 ways:
    • You can go through life feeling you’re responsible for and in control of everything that happens to you
    • You can also go through your life relying upon the guidance, wisdom, compassion, and love that’s greater than your own
  • You have to open that door and acknowledge that you don’t know
  • When we talk about guidance, we’re not asking for the external situation in our life to change, but for us change
    • The Holy Spirit in the course is the communication link between you and God
    • Saying you want to see things differently is asking
    • Be willing to acknowledge that we have a lot of stories
  • Standing in your magnitude is dropping all your stories – your spiritual self has no story
  • Emily shares about a career workshop she was in with Marianne Williamson
  • Magnitude is the perfection that we see in ourselves
  • There is a level where we cannot be affected with a story
  • Join Emily’s group at Course Companions
  • Connect with Emily on her website
  • Check out The She Rises website!
  • End of today’s podcast

3 Key Points:

  1. Learn to see through your differences with a person so you can see them in love.
  2. Spirituality is not the same a religion – they are two different things.
  3. Do not be afraid to be willing to speak about what you believe in.

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