I LOVE the topic of relationships, in fact of all the coaching that I do, relationship coaching is the most powerful and fulfilling of all!
To be a guide to others and bare witness to radical transformation is blessing and a gift.
Today I revisit this topic in an interview I gave back in 2015 with one of my spiritual teachers Lisa Natoli.
Lisa Natoli is a minister, teacher and healer. She is the author of the best-selling book Gorgeous for God and founder of the 40-Day Program for Transformation, a free online program. She writes and teaches on the topics of transformation, healing and abundance. She is co-founder of the nonprofit organization Teachers of God Foundation which inspires, encourages and supports individuals to go through the transformation from fear to love. She co-hosts a weekly radio show on Unity Online Radio called Living in Joy/Reflections on A Course in Miracles that airs every Friday afternoon at 3pm EST.
In this episode, Giovanna welcomes Lisa Natoli to the show. Lisa is a minister, teacher and healer whose main focus is in the area of relationships—a harmonious relationship with one’s self, God, and with others. She opens up about her own broken history in relationships which led to her finding a partner in Jesus. Out of her commitment to her faith and the fullness of love that she found through forgiveness, Lisa was able to open herself up to a new relationship and express to herself what she really wanted. Tune in to find out the miracle of forgiveness, the importance of the Holy Spirit in relationships, and what can happen when you choose to love yourself and God first…
- Today’s episode guest is Lisa Natoli
- Lisa is a minister, teacher and healer
- She also co hosts a radio show, Living in Joy / Reflections on A Course in Miracles
- It’s important for people to relate to each other
- Everything is relationships
- “Love addiction” is a good thing
- Giovanna finds that there’s a lot of confusion in relationships
- It was a revelation for Giovanna to see and understand the element of give and take in relationships
- Lisa lives a luxurious life in Christ and is totally in love with reckless abandon
- Just like everybody else, Lisa came from relationships that didn’t work
- Start with your relationship with yourself
- Lisa believes everything is about prayer
- The first step to having harmonious relationships is to have one with yourself and with God
- Accept your new beginning and be willing to do the work
- If God is not there, people tend to lean on another person to fulfill the need for love in us
- The starting point is the moment you make a decision to have a new life
- Most people think other people should change
- Lisa’s first husband was incredible but when she looked at the marriage, she really didn’t feel complete
- When they got a divorce, Lisa said she’d never be in a relationship anymore
- Summer 2010, Lisa felt deep in her heart that she did want a relationship but thought it wouldn’t work out for her anymore
- Ask for what you want in your heart
- Lisa believed she had the most amazing partner ever – Jesus
- She immediately changed and started taking care of herself
- She loved her life and then a relationship came – she fell in love with her 2nd husband, Bill
- Come to a place of wholeness and completion; to a place where you are full of love
- Don’t wait for a partner to feel complete
- Draw your circle, stand in it, and let everything come to you
- The training that leads to transformation is to allow the blocks and obstacles to come into full awareness
- The real work is finding the points of depression, anger, and fear and dissolving it into forgiveness
- Remember the truth
- Ego Love vs. Love of God
- A Course in Miracles is really a course on how to forgive
- The Mystical Third
- The first point of change is inviting the Holy Spirit in
- Open your mind and allow yourself to have experience with the power and presence of the Holy Spirit
- Lisa shares about conflict between herself and her mother over a ring
- Giovanna introduces Bill, Lisa’s husband
- “The importance of inviting the Holy Spirit to a relationship is everything”
- Invite the Holy Spirit to transform your relationship
- A lot of people have partners who are not on a spiritual path
- See that God is opening your partner’s heart and mind while you do your own work
- Trust that this person will step up
- Doing your own work makes everything easy
- “It’s very difficult if you don’t have the training”
- A Course in Miracles is a way to be happy
- “It’s a map with very specific detailed instructions”
- There’s a workbook with 365 lessons
- A human being lives in fear
- The course is a direct experience of your divine nature
- It’s not about religion – just pure content
- Lisa never thought she would marry again, but she believed there was someone God had for her
- She had a list of things she wanted in a man and everything in the list was met by Bill
- Be clear about what you want
- Whatever you fear, you’re going to create
- Get Lisa’s book, Gorgeous for God
- Check out She Rises website!
3 Key Points:
- Having harmonious relationships with others begins with having a harmonious relationship with one’s self and with God.
- You need to let go of what intoxicates your life—depression, anger, fear—let it dissolve into forgiveness.
- Be clear on the outcomes that you want for your life and let all other possibilities go.
- Lisa Natoli – Lisa’s personal website
- Gorgeous for God – Lisa’s book
- 40-Day Program for Transformation – A transformation program from The Teachers of God
- Teachers of God Foundation – Lisa’s nonprofit organization that encourages individuals to go through transformation from fear to love
- A Course in Miracles – A course with a book with detailed instructions on how you can find your miracles everyday
Allison Crow is the founder of Soul-Full Living, LLC, a soul-focused coaching company that blends spirituality, energy, and creative coaching with business coaching. She is a Certified Visual Coach, a Certified Expressive Arts Facilitator, and a founding member of 4PC, an international organization of the top 4% of coaches and leaders around the world.
Allison joins me today to discuss how to bring your creativity, authenticity, and soulfulness into everything you do as a female entrepreneur. She shares the turning point in her career that enabled her to rise up to her own creativity and authenticity and explains how to create “soulful success” - which is success that feels good to you, at the soul level.
“Skills + Your Authentic Self = Unstoppable.” - Allison Crow
This week on She Rises:
- Overcoming the need to “fit in”
- Being authentic and claiming your “too muchness”
- How to make peace with your authentic self
- The connection between vulnerability, creativity, and your business
- How to apply creative self-expression into entrepreneurship
- How to incorporate authenticity into your marketing and branding strategies
- The importance of sharing your creativity and authenticity in your business
- Overcoming perfectionism through authenticity
- Her philosophy of frequency over intensity when showing your authentic self
She Rises Actionable & Practical Tips:
- Journal every single day. Write a list of your “I am’s.”
- Fly your “freak flag.” Get creative.
Stop Settling, Start RISING!
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Myriam Llano is an expert on the relationship between women and nourishment. She teaches women globally about nourishing the sacred feminine first, as a way to honor themselves; bridging the gap between emotional eating, nutrition, and spirituality. She is the creator of the Divine Renewal™ program ... a revolutionary program which supports women in creating an intimate connection with food and their body; feeding what they’re truly hungry for in life with spiritual nutrition. After many decades of being on a personal quest to heal her relationship with food, Myriam realized that that the journey starts with honoring both our divine essence and our humanness.
When a woman begins to honor herself and let go of shame and old wounds, she can help create a movement ... a movement of women who are at peace with themselves, their bodies, food, and finally begin feeling whole. Every new moon, Myriam offers an episode of the Divine Renewal™ Radio program ~ a collection of spirited conversations with wise women helping you overcome body image and emotional nourishment issues by strengthening your connection with the sacred feminine. Myriam is a registered nutritionist, an emotional nourishment coach, and devoted to the oath of the Divine Feminine. For more information please visit divinerenewal.com
In today’s episode of the She Rises podcast, Giovanna interviews health consultant, nutritionist, and motivational speaker from Toronto, Canada Myriam Llano. Her focus is to: “To help women rediscover their true essence and receive nourishment from the sacred feminine as they experience the Divine Renewal they hunger for". Giovanna talks to Myriam Llano about her Divine Renewal concept of healing the emotional and spiritual cravings that women have when overcoming body shaming, anxiety issues, and depression. Divine Renewal isn’t another dietary program to give up on, it is a woman’s opportunity to reunite herself with her own body; to learn how to appreciate herself as she is.
- Giovanna welcomes Myriam to the podcast
- Myriam and Giovanna reminisce on meeting in Toronto several years ago
- Myriam’s She Rises Story – Relationship with food beginning at age 11
o Arriving to Canada from Columbia, suffering from her county’s drug war
o Eating to calm down her anxiety, eating all the time
- True hunger: hiding to eat so owner of her new house in Canada wouldn’t know she was eating their groceries, eating leftovers from the garbage
- Discovered the benefits of working out at age 13, binging and purging by age 14
- Myriam was a victim of sexual harassment, abuse, and sexual violation
- Became addicted to working out and dramatically lost weight at 17
- Between 17-19 Myriam feeling sad internally and wondered if she died who would notice, started hurting herself (scratching herself)
- Giovanna asks Myriam how she got out of self-destructive cycle
o By 19 Myriam hospitalized because her electrolytes were low, couldn’t walk up the stairs at her house
o Put into rehab at Toronto General Hospital, put into eating disorder program, had anorexia nervosa
- Giovanna asks Myriam what she means by emotional eating in male-dominated medical field
- Women worldwide struggling with body image issues, longing to feel loved, worthy, satisfied, heard, celebrated, and acknowledged
- Giovanna addresses the misconception that only overweight women have an issue with food
- Information and emotion that food holds for us, how/when/why we eat it plays a role in our relationship to it
- Using food for a drug to heal spiritual and emotional injury
- Coping with the past
- Giovanna discussing her first dietary lifestyle change and mistaking anxiety for hunger
- Macrobiotics taught Myriam about the energies of food, to feel “grounded” eat food from the ground, what are you “fueling?”
- More words to describe something negative than positive, reuniting pleasure with your sacred self
- Remembering the “mysteries of the feminine” and needing to redefine feminism – women’s bodies are cyclical and wear different archetypes that have been abused
- Myriam discusses the menstruation cycle causing women to “disown” their body and be disconnected
- Myriam’s advice of how to start reconnecting to your body by detoxing/keeping a journal
- Giovanna speaks about putting on weight because she denied herself pleasure
- Importance of awareness to stay tuned into emotions to deal with cravings: where and what you are eating to feel better
- Deconstructing a society of shaming women
- Myriam ends with: emotional eating can be healed
3 Key Points:
1.Being aware of your relationship to food to avoid using it as a depression cure.
2.Male-dominated medical field tends to ignore eating disorders being based on female body image problems.
3.Understanding that the cycles of the female body and deconstructing societal abuses towards women.
-“Every woman trying to feed the unfeedable.” – Myriam Llano
-“At some point, you need to reclaim the parts of your life, especially your body, that you have disowned.” – Myriam Llano
-“We can’t get through life without food. And food holds a lot of information…a lot of emotion.” – Myriam Llano
-“Start honoring yourself through spiritual and emotional nutrition.” – Myriam Llano
- “We start realizing that your body is not the problem, and that food is not the problem. That we really truly are whole exactly as we are.” – Myriam Llano
- “In order to step into the past, it takes a hell of a lot of courage.“ – Myriam Llano
Monica Day is obsessed with the areas of life that invite us to admit our deepest desires, stir our greatest passions, and face our most potent fears. As both a writer/performer and a coach/facilitator, she addresses the areas of race, gender, class, power, and sexuality in myriad ways. Ultimately, she sees these critical issues as holding the key to both our individual and collective freedom.
Her performance credits include two solo shows, Song of the Sacred Whore and Falling Into Love, and a collaborative effort, The Secret Order of the Libertines: An Intimate Revolution. She was the creator and host of Essensuality: An Evening of Erotic Expression in New York City and Philadelphia, and the producer and lead coach for the innovative Power of One program, which uses the solo show format as a vehicle for personal and cultural transformation. As a coach, she works with individuals and couples, offers workshops, and regularly offers innovative group programs.
In this new episode of the She Rises podcast, Giovanna Capozzainterviews author and life coach Monica Day. Monica has been actively offering transitional coaching, sessions for individuals and groups, as well as apprenticeships for her clients. The focus of Giovanna Capozza’s discussion with Monica Day revolves around Day’s new book called “Play Wide, Stay Safe: The Guide to Giving and Receiving.” This timely guide addresses the importance of rising above sexual shame and gender stereotypes about sexual pleasure and indulging in safe and consensual intimate exploration. Monica Day offers tangible methods to take the embarrassment out of the communication of personal desires and the importance of using polar opposites in your relationship to spark hot sexual energy.
- Giovanna welcomes Monica to the podcast
- Monica defines sex as foundational to all of our lives, not relegated to the bedroom
- Doesn’t consider herself a sex coach or “sexpert”
- Monica’s “Sex Rises Story”: Monica’s feelings of once feeling unfulfilled: her own business, family breadwinner, raising two kids, putting ex-husband through school
- Writing erotic poetry after marital separation and depression
- Monica will have future book about personal coming-of-age sexual desires
- Monica lost her virginity against her will
- Sexual and body shame getting in the way of sexual exploration
- People not being taught the difference between sexual acts and sexual energy
- Predatory sex
- Shared ways to express sexual desires as individuals and in relationships
- Breaking free of societal taboos about sex that create shame
- Intersection between race and sex
- Sexual habits and desires leading to self-judgement and fear
- Performance-based language about sex
- Distinction between sensation-based language and judgement-based language
- Popularity of “50 Shades of Grey” and the romance novel industry
- “Erotic Self” and a “Domestic Self”
- Communicating sexual curiosities
- Monica’s advice to remedy a couple’s lack of sexual communication: Slowing down, being playful and curious, taking goal-orientated sex results out of the picture
- Repression even in a highly sexualized society
- Monica advising a company how to change their sexualized approach to using desire in advertising
- The problem with pornography getting in the way of intimacy
- Where our sexual organs are in our body is where our creativity and life force energy resides, a lot of our shames lives there as well
- Women shutting down their sexual interests to avoid shame
- Mastering the powerful fuel of sexual energy
- “Solo Practice” to explore your own body to learn personal desires
- Communication to feel full desire
- Masculine and feminine energy in sexual tension
- Important polarities to create desire: Leading and Following, Dominance and Submission, Fantasy and Reality
- Giovanna talks about “The Little Death” an Australian movie about a wife sharing her rape fantasy with her husband
- “The Primal and the Sacred” as a range for sexual desire
- Start something new in your relationship before it dies
3 Key Points:
- Sexual repression and taboos.
- The differences between your “erotic self” and your “domestic” self.
- Use polar opposites like Leading and Following, Dominance and Submission, Fantasy and Reality, and Primal and Sacred to explore sexual desires.
-“There is sex the act, and there is sex the energy.” – Monica Day requoting Giovanna Capozza.
-“Am I normal?” – Monica Day
-“When curiosity is politically inconvenient.” – Monica Day.
-“We are saturated with sex, and yet we are starving.” – Monica Day.
- “Your sex walks in the door 20 minutes before you, and it doesn’t leave until an hour after you’ve left the room.” – Monica Day
- “The best leader is one who takes you to the place of your deepest desire. And the best follower is the one who is willing to go there.“ – Monica Day
- "Wild Geese”– Poem by Mary Oliver
- “Play Wild, Stay Safe: The Guide to Giving and Receiving”- Book by Monica Day
- “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence” - Book by Ester Perel
- http://monicaday.com - Monica Day’s website
- “The Little Death” – Movie about sexual fantasy
Healing is not only cured by medicine. Healing also takes place in the mind. We often underestimate the role the mind plays in our healing. Our higher state of consciousness has the ability to influence our health—and this is one topic that can be easily dismissed by mainstream medicine and health systems. Today, Giovanna opens up about her journey as a healer. She explains the role of fear as it relates to sickness and how we can liberate ourselves from this fear. She also discusses the healing effects of being PRESENT in the moment.
- Today’s episode is partnered with live training on Youtube!
- This week, we’ll continue with the topic of healing—a very personal topic for Giovanna
- She believes that we are all healers; part of her purpose is to awaken the healer in you
- Giovanna is an alternative medicine doctor by trade
- People seek to solve problems and find a solution, but it isn’t useful when it comes to a higher consciousness
- Giovanna’s body issues from when she was younger got her on the health track early on
- Unfortunately, she still felt something was missing
- She felt a lot of guilt for leaving her career in health
- There is a missing piece that isn’t talked about in our efforts for true health and healing—that missing piece is our higher self
- Giovanna became a healer to fix herself and to fix other people, but she burnt out
- The higher consciousness of every person is pure presence
- You are NOT a body — you are a presence/consciousness that does not get sick
- Your ego tends to blame or shame yourself
- Our bodies get sick because of our thoughts and beliefs; however, only to a degree
- The mind is powerful; your thoughts and your beliefs create your reality
- There is only one thought that makes you sick—FEAR
- Dwelling in the past OR having anxiety about the future will trigger that fear
- The vital life force is the animating spirit that lives within all of us that is there to heal itself
- There is a way to speak to your subconscious mind
- Accessing the power of your healing is accessing the place where the future and past do not matter
- Giovanna shares about her gallbladder problem that was caused by her stressing and attacking herself
- Remember that there’s nothing that you need to do except BE PRESENT
- The new way of healing for us needs to incorporate healing of the mind
- Accepting the present moment liberates your body
- True healing comes from remembering who you are
- Please share this She Rises podcast to your friends!
3 Key Points:
- You are a neutral presence or consciousness that doesn’t get sick or have fear.
- Healing comes from within yourself.
- Liberate yourself by being present in the moment and free yourself from the anxieties of the past and/or future.
Jodi Flynn is the Founder of Women Taking the Lead, a podcast and community of ambitious entrepreneurial women who want to go BIG. She works with Type-A women who are already successful but have not yet achieved the level of success they want to achieve. Jodi helps her clients to see how extraordinary they are and then set priorities, get organized, in action so they can achieve their biggest goals with ease. She became an Amazon bestselling author with the release of her book, Accomplished: How to Go from Dreaming to doing. https://womentakingthelead.com
Every woman has two sides: the side that she is proud to show to the world and the side that she tends to hide. The part of us that we hide is made up of our insecurities, our struggles, our fears. They are the feelings that arise when we feel what we are offering to the world is just not good enough. Today’s She Rises guest, Jodi Flynn, tackles the insecurities in women that drive them to push harder in their careers and personal life. She helps women develop their confidence and see that they are already amazing—regardless of how much they strive in life. Tune-in as Jodi and Giovanna take us into their own inner struggles of self-confidence, what they describe to be their superpowers and kryptonite, and how all women can be the best version of themselves.
- For free resources, go to GiovannaCapozza.com
- Today’s guest, Jodi Flynn, helps women develop their confidence and help them realize that they’re already amazing
- Jodi, as a child, was full of insecurities outside of the house
- She even trained herself to breath silently so she wouldn’t attract attention
- Growing up, Jodi used her friends as a security blankets
- These friends left her and it devastated her at the start, but it also encouraged her to reach out to others and form new friendships
- The women who hire Jodi for coaching are already successful people
- They may not feel successful though
- They also can doubt their personal relationships
- Some tend to struggle with perfectionism
- Jodi helps them to understand they can delegate their work so they can focus on more important things
- Jodi shares about one of her clients
- Her client had to either sell her business or work with a partner
- She had a lot of options and Jodi told her that they will work their through the options
- The client had an “aha” moment where she realized her team worked better when she took a break
- The client didn’t have to sell the business or take on a partner after all
- The leader, or the owner, can become a “barrier” to the business experiencing success
- The common factor between all of Jodi’s clients is perfectionism which causes them to hide their problems
- They don’t want to ask for help; they try their best to do things their own way
- Hiding keeps people trapped
- Jodi was trapped at one time herself
- In business, things will go wrong
- It should be taken as an experiment where failures are a learning experience
- The people who are successful are the ones who didn’t hold themselves back
- “Strive for some excellence, not for perfection”
- Perfectionism only reinforces “not good enough” ideas and beliefs
- Jodi believes that every quality has two sides of a coin, the “good enough” and “not good enough” side
- Jodi wrote her book for the women who believe things are “not good enough”
- In all things, be aligned with your mission and work at your own personal development
- There’s work involved when it comes to aligning with your mission and purpose; it requires you to engage in a heart-to-heart with yourself
- The mission for women is to be the best version of yourself
- “Be the change you would like to see in the world”
- If you follow your interests, you’re already in your mission and purpose
- Women can make a difference and have tremendous power
- You don’t have to be the next Oprah, you can start with your own community or circle
- As Roosevelt once said, “Do what you can with what you have, where you are”
- Doing one small action can create the greatest ripple
- What to do with the crabs in the bucket?
- If you change, the people around you have to change
- Lovingly set boundaries
- Help them understand how you’re doing and if they can’t support you yet, that’s okay
- Giovanna shares how people questioned her decision to move to Mexico
- Know what is true for you
- Jodi’s book is Accomplished: How to Go from Dreaming to Doing
- It is broken down into three parts, the first part is the foundation and setting yourself up for success
- Second part is about mindset, stress, obstacles and the people you surround yourself with
- Last part is the tactical side of things
- There’s nothing wrong with being a visionary
- Recognize your superpowers and your kryptonite
- Giovanna and her partner are having a spiritual and business retreat for women in Bali next year
- Jodi’s book is like a DIY coaching service for women who are overworked, overwhelmed and have big dreams, but can’t make them happen
- If you have a question, reach out to Giovanna at the She Rises website or to Jodi at GiovannaCapozza.com
- Email Giovanna at firstname.lastname@example.org
3 Key Points:
- Women are NOT inferior to men—they achieve their potential in their own ways.
- When we change, people around us will change as well.
- You can be a visionary but achieving the right balance between action and dreaming is KEY.
- Jodi Flynn – Today’s guest
- GiovannaCapozza.com – Giovanna’s website
- WomenTakingtheLead.com – Jodi’s website
- Accomplished: How to Go from Dreaming to Doing – Jodi’s book
Barry Price is a Dating Mentor and Coachville-Trained Life Coach who used to help his single, successful Mom analyze her dates. He now supports heart-centered, six-figure female entrepreneurs to attract, date and maintain a relationship with the man of their dreams.
Though empowering for women, the feminist movement has taken a toll on men. Women stepping up and no longer hiding their power has unfortunately left men questioning where they stand—specifically in the realm of romantic relationships. So how does a woman find a man that they deem a proper fit? How does a woman maintain her femininity WITHOUT giving up her power to a man? These are the questions that will be addressed in today’s She Rises episode with guest, Barry Paul Price. Tune-in to gain a better understanding of the masculine and feminine energies that lie within all of us and how to achieve balance in ourselves before we can even dare to find our match.
- For free resources, go to GiovannaCapozza.com
- Each person has BOTH masculine and feminine energies
- Today’s guest, Barry Price, helps powerful women date men, NOT boys
- His message—you can have the love that you deserve
- He helps powerful women reconnect with their feminine energy
- Both masculine and feminine energies are powerful – you just have to use the right energy that serves you at the right time
- Since the age of feminism, women have been able to freely express the power they already have
- In the 70’s and 80’s, men didn’t know how to respond to powerful women
- In the 20th century, boys are being brought up by female elders; this is very different from ancient times where they spent their days with male elders
- The definition of a male role model changed with the industrial revolution
- In the last 10 years, many have been questioning “Where are the men?”
- Barry refers to the book, The End of Men, which was written because of the rise of women
- Some men are having a difficult time coping with women stepping up
- Barry believes women should feel free to change in ways that allow them to fully connect with their feminine energy WITHOUT sacrificing their power
- Giovanna states that all people have a deep sense of power within themselves
- Typical characteristics of boys (not men) can include emotional immaturity, financial instability, being emotionally unavailable, etc.
- Focus on what you’re looking for as a woman (the kind of man you desire); don’t fixate on the kind of man you’d like to avoid
- Five “M’s” to differentiate a boy from a man:
- #1 Maturity
- #2 Mission
- #3 Masculine
- #4 Myself
- #5 Making you feel safe
- Barry iterates the importance of starting with YOURSELF
- If you’re still single, it’s because you haven’t met your ideal match
- Be authentic and be the BEST version of yourself
- Having the “I can do it on my own” attitude is effective for feeling safe and secure, but it can also drain your energy
- Powerful women tend to want control in a relationship; know the times when you need to release that control
- “There’s nothing less attractive than people with unmet needs, wanting their needs met by you”
- Don’t be attached to the possible outcomes of a relationship
- Cultivate your relationship with yourself FIRST
- “Nobody is here to fill all your needs”
- What matters is being aligned in every part of you before a man comes into the picture; don’t look for a person to fill in your gaps
- Being feminine is part of an evolving, organic sense of yourself
- “The feminine side of understanding a soulmate is really, feeling your way into what that will feel like being around that person”
- Dancing without any inhibitions or self-judgment can help you tap into your feminine side
- Beware of The Miss Independent Syndrome, or the “Screw you, I don’t need you” attitude
- Your identity can make you feel safe, but it can also blind you of your problems
- Vulnerability is a gift that you give to yourself and to your significant other
- Barry has immense respect for people who can search within themselves and admit there was something wrong
- Begin your journey with a deeper level of self-trust
- If you have a question, reach out to Giovanna at the She Rises website or to Barry at email@example.com
- Email Giovanna at firstname.lastname@example.org
3 Key Points:
- All people have both the masculine and feminine energy within them; each have their strengths according to the situation at hand.
- The struggle to find a partner can be overcome by finding your balance.
- Before looking for a potential partner, remember to place your focus on what you can contribute to the relationship first.
- Barry Paul Price – Today’s guest
- GiovannaCapozza.com – Giovanna’s website
- The End of Men – The book Barry mentioned in the podcast
Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt inspires open hearted courageous living, with delicious sass. Featured on CBS, TLC, FOX and weekly on the Good Men Project, this cum laude graduate of Columbia University is the author of 3 books, with one in the oven. She’s a coach to celebrities and the Host of the sexy empowering show IntimateConversationsLIVE.com.
Allana’s passionate devotion to helping men and women reclaim their joy, freedom and personal power dating and in relationships is rooted in her own experience. Allana endured a brutal custody battle that threatened to compromise her joy, softness and feminine power. Yet Allana sat in the fire, embracing the experience as a spiritual teacher, emerging more courageously vulnerable and radiantly loving than ever before.
Now she inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature and find strength in their softness to attract all the love and attention they desire. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’, and awakens their ‘noble badass’ to create hot, healthy intimate relationships. She pole dances for pleasure, has ridiculous amounts of joy as a mother and inspires reverence for our exquisite sexual nature.
With two failed marriages and a lifetime riddled with insecurities, no one person would think today’s guest, Allana Pratt, would rise to where she is now – an intimacy expert who helps both men and women become “radiant sexy women” or “noble badasses. Listen as Allana, with authentic vulnerability, lets us into her life and story. She shares candidly about all of her life’s twists and turns and discusses what it takes to live openly and honestly. Tune-in the learn the value of vulnerability, humility and why others cannot love us right UNTIL we learn how to love ourselves.
- Today’s episode guest is Allana Pratt
- Allana is from Canada
- She hopped into her uncle’s 18-wheeler truck to go to Hollywood
- She was good enough to dance, but she didn’t have the visa so she took a dancing job in Japan instead
- That job helped her understand the sacredness and sensual divinity within her body
- After 4 years of dancing, she met a guy who became her first husband
- They moved to New York City and Allana went to Columbia University where she graduated Cum Laude
- Everyone she spoke to in America was skeptical about the dancing career she had in Japan; Allana was so ashamed about it that she had to lie at times
- They moved to Los Angeles where she didn’t feel out-of-place
- Her marriage didn’t work out, even after counselling
- She married her second husband when her mom was passing away
- To fill the void of her mother, she rushed the process of getting married again
- Unfortunately, she and her second husband divorced within the year; there was a 12-year custody battle for their son
- The custody battle opened up a feminine power Allana never thought she had
- She found her centered place of truth
- Her ex-husband won 70% custody, but his son didn’t want to live with him
- Her son spent 3 months with her and said he wanted to stay with her primarily
- Allana wanted her son to make up with his father; since then, there have been issues with the father that have caused her son to block communication with Allana
- Allan met a guy a month ago that she is now seeing; she deems him a ‘noble badass’
- Allana’s clients hire her because she’s real and she does not judge
- Vulnerability is one of Giovanna’s issues that she deals with
- Giovanna is in a place now where she is considering getting into a relationship again
- If you derive your worth from the outside-in, you’re screwed
- Derive 100% of your worth from the inside-out
- People tend to be cruel to themselves
- Allowance is the first step to vulnerability
- You can resist to a point where you break
- When people get into relationships with little parts of themselves, they accept themselves as a whole and they accept themselves unconditionally
- Because we judge ourselves, we lock parts of our real self down
- Nobody is going to love the real you if you don’t love yourself
- You attract people like yourself – if you’re emotionally unavailable, you attract the same kind of person
- The safest is being open ALL the way
- Courage and humility are two things you need to find your way back home
- Allana understands how it’s like to disconnect from ourselves
- Either you learn to let go or it’s going to be done for you
- Pole dancing taught Allana to not grip too loose or too tight in almost everything
- Vulnerability is the way to the limitlessness embodiment of who we are
- Vulnerability is what makes you sexy and irresistible
- It’s what helps you trust yourself more
- One gift of vulnerability is self-trust and trust in the universe—the path to that is through courage and humility
- It takes great humility to admit that you need to heal something
- Everything goes back to loving yourself completely with all those imperfections
- After some heartbreak, Giovanna realized that she was OKAY and others need to realize they will be OKAY, too
- When you go through the stages of vulnerability and get to a place of readiness, you’re going to be okay
- Don’t forget to discern who you’re going to open up to
- “A person has to earn the right to your vulnerability”
- People have been taught that it’s safer to be in their head and that their body is a place of shame
- “If you have been inappropriately touched in any way, the body remembers that”
- “Be vulnerable to yourself”
- Love yourself and allow the person who comes into your life, to love you in the SAME way
- Check out the She Rises website for show notes
3 Key Points:
- Don’t be afraid to be the REAL you and try not to judge others.
- Understand that all people wrestle with vulnerability.
- Don’t let any external source define who you are – love yourself from the inside-out.
- Allana Pratt – Allana’s personal website
- Get Her to Say Yes – Allana’s program for men
- Gift from Allana
Maria Felipe is the author of Live Your Happy. A Cuban-American born in Miami, she is 5’9” with a towering personality to match. After experiencing success as a model and actress, including hosting World Wrestling Federation TV shows, she felt called inward and studied to become a reverend at Pathways of Light, an accredited religious school inspired by A Course in Miracles. She leads monthly services in both Spanish and English at Unity Church in Burbank, CA.
All of us seek true happiness in our lives; but, it is the rare few that manage to find it. Maria Felipe, our guest on today’s show, guides us into how one can do just that. Maria believes that cultivating self-love and a feeling of abundance are KEY to finding true happiness. She delves into her life struggle of people pleasing and her general lack of self-love—factors that have contributed to her becoming intrinsically unhappy. Today, she discusses just how she managed to let go of her grievances, cultivate that self-love, and ultimately find that true sense of happiness. Tune-in to learn how your willingness to connect to the Holy Spirit and to your spirit within can help you live your happy.
- Today’s guest is Maria Felipe
- Her book Live Your Happy: Get Out of Your Own Way and Find the Love Within is based on A Course in Miracles
- The books urges readers to live at MAX capacity; be responsible by not being a victim of the world that you see
- Being FORGIVING, even when and if you do not want to, WILL make you feel better
- Maria was suffering because she was dissatisfied with the state of her relationships and her career
- In this world of duality, we are constantly looking for outside validation to be “complete”
- Was even attending the Course of Miracles in a bid to find happiness
- Her personal life went through major upheaval in 2009 when she went through a divorce; resorted to drinking and partying to cope up
- Started to recognize that if she did not mend her ways, she was doomed to die
- Decided to go to The Pathways of Light, a ministerial program to further her study on the Course of Miracles
- Opted to go there not to become a teacher, speaker or instructor but to HEAL her mind
- The Course of Miracles says, “All you need is a little bit of willingness for miracles to happen”; inherently willing, she finally warmed up to the program
- Tried reading books and listening to CD’s in her self-help and desperation phase, but to no avail
- Need to EMBODY the teachings and live them in your relationships with yourself and others
- Realized the futility of looking for love outside of oneself
- Tranced with the world and caught up in our egos, we have gotten comfortable with being unhappy
- Being EASY and being HAPPY is the true normal; happiness, our function and inheritance is the true reality
- BIG DEALS rob us off our inheritance, our happiness—in other words, when we make a big fuss over small issues or catastrophize certain events in our life that end up stealing our peace
- Cultivate a mindset where you are happy regardless of the outcome; your happiness is not dependent on things outside of you
- Remember, outside stuff does not define you; GOD does
- Avoid falling in the ego trap where you think, “You could have, you should have or would have done it better”
- Avoid being obsessed with your looks and being skinny just to people please or get something else from the outside world
- Maria’s body is just a reflection of her thoughts
- Your bank account and your job do not define you; you will not find abundance in your life via monetary gains
- Your life is inherently abundant since you are God’s creation; you have everything and lack nothing
- Our ego pushes us to achieve more and more in this consumption driven society
- Maria beat 500 girls to land a job at World Wrestling Federation; while this job had all the trappings of success, Maria was the saddest she had been all her life
- The only thing that you want to truly MANIFEST is what the holy spirit guides you to do; look to manifest more internal things rather than external things
- “You want the holy spirit’s guidance because you want what is best for the soul growth. You want to wake up more and more to the love that you are”
- Sometimes you need to GIVE up all desires to DISCOVER what is truly best for you
- Stop and gain control over your wandering mind to truly CONNECT with your spirit
- The Holy Spirit communicates with you through signs and symbols; it will meet you where you are at
- Given the current state of society at large, Maria believes that you need BIG WILLINGNESS in order to truly connect with the Holy Spirit
- Had been longing for a man’s love all her life; realized the futility of this when she realized that she was, in fact, longing for God’s love and that she had it all along
- Upon realizing that all the conflict was within herself, and that she was holding herself back from the holy, the good and the beautiful, she finally became FREE
- Is in a great relationship right now due to the self-love that she was able to cultivate
- “Feeling your feelings” is extremely important for dealing with your emotional issues; don’t brush your feelings under a rug, respond to the nudge that the Holy Spirit is giving you
- Check out the resources mentioned on the She Rises website
- Visit her online at http://www.mariafelipe.org.
3 Key Points:
- Give up all your DESIRES to truly discover what is best for you.
- Important to “feel your feelings” and deal with your emotional issues; do not brush your feelings under a rug.
- STOP looking for happiness outside of you; the TRUTH is that you have everything and you lack nothing – cultivate a feeling of ABUNDANCE to be truly and intrinsically happy.
- A Course in Miracles – Maria referred to this course in a bid to find true happiness
- The Pathways of Light – Taking up this course was a life-changing decision for Maria