Barry Paul Price - How to Date Men, Not Boys

October 17, 2017

Barry Price is a Dating Mentor and Coachville-Trained Life Coach who used to help his single, successful Mom analyze her dates. He now supports heart-centered, six-figure female entrepreneurs to attract, date and maintain a relationship with the man of their dreams.

Though empowering for women, the feminist movement has taken a toll on men. Women stepping up and no longer hiding their power has unfortunately left men questioning where they stand—specifically in the realm of romantic relationships. So how does a woman find a man that they deem a proper fit? How does a woman maintain her femininity WITHOUT giving up her power to a man? These are the questions that will be addressed in today’s She Rises episode with guest, Barry Paul Price. Tune-in to gain a better understanding of the masculine and feminine energies that lie within all of us and how to achieve balance in ourselves before we can even dare to find our match.

  • For free resources, go to GiovannaCapozza.com
  • Each person has BOTH masculine and feminine energies
  • Today’s guest, Barry Price, helps powerful women date men, NOT boys
    • His message—you can have the love that you deserve
    • He helps powerful women reconnect with their feminine energy
  • Both masculine and feminine energies are powerful – you just have to use the right energy that serves you at the right time
  • Since the age of feminism, women have been able to freely express the power they already have
    • In the 70’s and 80’s, men didn’t know how to respond to powerful women
    • In the 20th century, boys are being brought up by female elders; this is very different from ancient times where they spent their days with male elders
    • The definition of a male role model changed with the industrial revolution
    • In the last 10 years, many have been questioning “Where are the men?”
  • Barry refers to the book, The End of Men, which was written because of the rise of women
    • Some men are having a difficult time coping with women stepping up
  • Barry believes women should feel free to change in ways that allow them to fully connect with their feminine energy WITHOUT sacrificing their power
  • Giovanna states that all people have a deep sense of power within themselves
  • Typical characteristics of boys (not men) can include emotional immaturity, financial instability, being emotionally unavailable, etc.
  • Focus on what you’re looking for as a woman (the kind of man you desire); don’t fixate on the kind of man you’d like to avoid
  • Five “M’s” to differentiate a boy from a man:
    • #1 Maturity
    • #2 Mission
    • #3 Masculine
    • #4 Myself
    • #5 Making you feel safe
  • Barry iterates the importance of starting with YOURSELF
    • If you’re still single, it’s because you haven’t met your ideal match
    • Be authentic and be the BEST version of yourself
    • Having the “I can do it on my own” attitude is effective for feeling safe and secure, but it can also drain your energy
    • Powerful women tend to want control in a relationship; know the times when you need to release that control
  • “There’s nothing less attractive than people with unmet needs, wanting their needs met by you”
    • Don’t be attached to the possible outcomes of a relationship
    • Cultivate your relationship with yourself FIRST
    • “Nobody is here to fill all your needs”
    • What matters is being aligned in every part of you before a man comes into the picture; don’t look for a person to fill in your gaps
  • Being feminine is part of an evolving, organic sense of yourself
    • “The feminine side of understanding a soulmate is really, feeling your way into what that will feel like being around that person”
    • Dancing without any inhibitions or self-judgment can help you tap into your feminine side
    • Beware of The Miss Independent Syndrome, or the “Screw you, I don’t need you” attitude
  • Your identity can make you feel safe, but it can also blind you of your problems
    • Vulnerability is a gift that you give to yourself and to your significant other
    • Barry has immense respect for people who can search within themselves and admit there was something wrong
  • Begin your journey with a deeper level of self-trust
  • If you have a question, reach out to Giovanna at the She Rises website or to Barry at barry@barrypaulprice.com
  • Email Giovanna at info@giovannacapozza.com

3 Key Points:

  1. All people have both the masculine and feminine energy within them; each have their strengths according to the situation at hand.
  2. The struggle to find a partner can be overcome by finding your balance.
  3. Before looking for a potential partner, remember to place your focus on what you can contribute to the relationship first.

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Allana Pratt - The Risk of Vulnerability

October 10, 2017

Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt inspires open hearted courageous living, with delicious sass. Featured on CBS, TLC, FOX and weekly on the Good Men Project, this cum laude graduate of Columbia University is the author of 3 books, with one in the oven. She’s a coach to celebrities and the Host of the sexy empowering show IntimateConversationsLIVE.com.

Allana’s passionate devotion to helping men and women reclaim their joy, freedom and personal power dating and in relationships is rooted in her own experience. Allana endured a brutal custody battle that threatened to compromise her joy, softness and feminine power. Yet Allana sat in the fire, embracing the experience as a spiritual teacher, emerging more courageously vulnerable and radiantly loving than ever before.

Now she inspires women to embrace their sacred erotic nature and find strength in their softness to attract all the love and attention they desire. She heals men’s emasculated hearts, cures their ‘nice guy’, and awakens their ‘noble badass’ to create hot, healthy intimate relationships. She pole dances for pleasure, has ridiculous amounts of joy as a mother and inspires reverence for our exquisite sexual nature.

With two failed marriages and a lifetime riddled with insecurities, no one person would think today’s guest, Allana Pratt, would rise to where she is now – an intimacy expert who helps both men and women become “radiant sexy women” or “noble badasses. Listen as Allana, with authentic vulnerability, lets us into her life and story. She shares candidly about all of her life’s twists and turns and discusses what it takes to live openly and honestly. Tune-in the learn the value of vulnerability, humility and why others cannot love us right UNTIL we learn how to love ourselves.

  • Today’s episode guest is Allana Pratt
  • Allana is from Canada
    • She hopped into her uncle’s 18-wheeler truck to go to Hollywood
    • She was good enough to dance, but she didn’t have the visa so she took a dancing job in Japan instead
    • That job helped her understand the sacredness and sensual divinity within her body
    • After 4 years of dancing, she met a guy who became her first husband
    • They moved to New York City and Allana went to Columbia University where she graduated Cum Laude
    • Everyone she spoke to in America was skeptical about the dancing career she had in Japan; Allana was so ashamed about it that she had to lie at times
    • They moved to Los Angeles where she didn’t feel out-of-place
  • Her marriage didn’t work out, even after counselling
    • She married her second husband when her mom was passing away
    • To fill the void of her mother, she rushed the process of getting married again
    • Unfortunately, she and her second husband divorced within the year; there was a 12-year custody battle for their son
  • The custody battle opened up a feminine power Allana never thought she had
    • She found her centered place of truth
  • Her ex-husband won 70% custody, but his son didn’t want to live with him
    • Her son spent 3 months with her and said he wanted to stay with her primarily
    • Allana wanted her son to make up with his father; since then, there have been issues with the father that have caused her son to block communication with Allana
  • Allan met a guy a month ago that she is now seeing; she deems him a ‘noble badass’
  • Allana’s clients hire her because she’s real and she does not judge
  • Vulnerability is one of Giovanna’s issues that she deals with
    • Giovanna is in a place now where she is considering getting into a relationship again
    • If you derive your worth from the outside-in, you’re screwed
    • Derive 100% of your worth from the inside-out
    • People tend to be cruel to themselves
    • Allowance is the first step to vulnerability
    • You can resist to a point where you break
  • When people get into relationships with little parts of themselves, they accept themselves as a whole and they accept themselves unconditionally
    • Because we judge ourselves, we lock parts of our real self down
    • Nobody is going to love the real you if you don’t love yourself
    • You attract people like yourself – if you’re emotionally unavailable, you attract the same kind of person
  • The safest is being open ALL the way
  • Courage and humility are two things you need to find your way back home
  • Allana understands how it’s like to disconnect from ourselves
    • Either you learn to let go or it’s going to be done for you
    • Pole dancing taught Allana to not grip too loose or too tight in almost everything
    • Vulnerability is the way to the limitlessness embodiment of who we are
    • Vulnerability is what makes you sexy and irresistible
    • It’s what helps you trust yourself more
  • One gift of vulnerability is self-trust and trust in the universe—the path to that is through courage and humility
    • It takes great humility to admit that you need to heal something
    • Everything goes back to loving yourself completely with all those imperfections
    • After some heartbreak, Giovanna realized that she was OKAY and others need to realize they will be OKAY, too
    • When you go through the stages of vulnerability and get to a place of readiness, you’re going to be okay
  • Don’t forget to discern who you’re going to open up to
  • “A person has to earn the right to your vulnerability”
  • People have been taught that it’s safer to be in their head and that their body is a place of shame
  • “If you have been inappropriately touched in any way, the body remembers that”
  • “Be vulnerable to yourself”
  • Love yourself and allow the person who comes into your life, to love you in the SAME way
  • Check out the She Rises website for show notes

3 Key Points:

  1. Don’t be afraid to be the REAL you and try not to judge others.
  2. Understand that all people wrestle with vulnerability.
  3. Don’t let any external source define who you are – love yourself from the inside-out.

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Maria Felipe - Live Your Happy

October 3, 2017

Maria Felipe is the author of Live Your Happy. A Cuban-American born in Miami, she is 5’9” with a towering personality to match.  After experiencing success as a model and actress, including hosting World Wrestling Federation TV shows, she felt called inward and studied to become a reverend at Pathways of Light, an accredited religious school inspired by A Course in Miracles. She leads monthly services in both Spanish and English at Unity Church in Burbank, CA. 

All of us seek true happiness in our lives; but, it is the rare few that manage to find it. Maria Felipe, our guest on today’s show, guides us into how one can do just that. Maria believes that cultivating self-love and a feeling of abundance are KEY to finding true happiness. She delves into her life struggle of people pleasing and her general lack of self-love—factors that have contributed to her becoming intrinsically unhappy. Today, she discusses just how she managed to let go of her grievances, cultivate that self-love, and ultimately find that true sense of happiness. Tune-in to learn how your willingness to connect to the Holy Spirit and to your spirit within can help you live your happy.

  • Today’s guest is Maria Felipe
  • Her book Live Your Happy: Get Out of Your Own Way and Find the Love Within is based on A Course in Miracles
    • The books urges readers to live at MAX capacity; be responsible by not being a victim of the world that you see
    • Being FORGIVING, even when and if you do not want to, WILL make you feel better
  • Maria was suffering because she was dissatisfied with the state of her relationships and her career
    • In this world of duality, we are constantly looking for outside validation to be “complete”
    • Was even attending the Course of Miracles in a bid to find happiness
    • Her personal life went through major upheaval in 2009 when she went through a divorce; resorted to drinking and partying to cope up
    • Started to recognize that if she did not mend her ways, she was doomed to die
  • Decided to go to The Pathways of Light, a ministerial program to further her study on the Course of Miracles
    • Opted to go there not to become a teacher, speaker or instructor but to HEAL her mind
    • The Course of Miracles says, “All you need is a little bit of willingness for miracles to happen”; inherently willing, she finally warmed up to the program
  • Tried reading books and listening to CD’s in her self-help and desperation phase, but to no avail
    • Need to EMBODY the teachings and live them in your relationships with yourself and others
    • Realized the futility of looking for love outside of oneself
  • Tranced with the world and caught up in our egos, we have gotten comfortable with being unhappy
    • Being EASY and being HAPPY is the true normal; happiness, our function and inheritance is the true reality
    • BIG DEALS rob us off our inheritance, our happiness—in other words, when we make a big fuss over small issues or catastrophize certain events in our life that end up stealing our peace
    • Cultivate a mindset where you are happy regardless of the outcome; your happiness is not dependent on things outside of you
    • Remember, outside stuff does not define you; GOD does
  • Avoid falling in the ego trap where you think, “You could have, you should have or would have done it better”
  • Avoid being obsessed with your looks and being skinny just to people please or get something else from the outside world
    • Maria’s body is just a reflection of her thoughts
  • Your bank account and your job do not define you; you will not find abundance in your life via monetary gains
    • Your life is inherently abundant since you are God’s creation; you have everything and lack nothing
    • Our ego pushes us to achieve more and more in this consumption driven society
    • Maria beat 500 girls to land a job at World Wrestling Federation; while this job had all the trappings of success, Maria was the saddest she had been all her life
    • The only thing that you want to truly MANIFEST is what the holy spirit guides you to do; look to manifest more internal things rather than external things
  • “You want the holy spirit’s guidance because you want what is best for the soul growth. You want to wake up more and more to the love that you are”
  • Sometimes you need to GIVE up all desires to DISCOVER what is truly best for you
  • Stop and gain control over your wandering mind to truly CONNECT with your spirit
    • The Holy Spirit communicates with you through signs and symbols; it will meet you where you are at
    • Given the current state of society at large, Maria believes that you need BIG WILLINGNESS in order to truly connect with the Holy Spirit
  • Had been longing for a man’s love all her life; realized the futility of this when she realized that she was, in fact, longing for God’s love and that she had it all along
    • Upon realizing that all the conflict was within herself, and that she was holding herself back from the holy, the good and the beautiful, she finally became FREE
    • Is in a great relationship right now due to the self-love that she was able to cultivate
  • “Feeling your feelings” is extremely important for dealing with your emotional issues; don’t brush your feelings under a rug, respond to the nudge that the Holy Spirit is giving you
  • Check out the resources mentioned on the She Rises website
  • Visit her online at http://www.mariafelipe.org.

3 Key Points:

  1. Give up all your DESIRES to truly discover what is best for you.
  2. Important to “feel your feelings” and deal with your emotional issues; do not brush your feelings under a rug.
  3. STOP looking for happiness outside of you; the TRUTH is that you have everything and you lack nothing – cultivate a feeling of ABUNDANCE to be truly and intrinsically happy.

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Giovanna Capozza-Decisions, Decisions… Ugh!

September 26, 2017

Decisions are simply a part of life. There are small daily ones with small consequences. And, there are the life-altering, enormous ones that can cause us a great amount of stress, anxiety and indecision. Since making decisions are inevitable, we need to know how to approach this process—especially if we find ourselves becoming STUCK in our own indecision. In this episode, Giovanna walks us through the process of decision making. She discusses how we can make a decision from a place of clarity and peace instead of one that is influenced by our own ego and rational thinking. She discusses the NEED to tap into our Source, Guide, or Higher Self to seek true direction and encourages listeners in how they can make time in their busy lives to do so.

  • Today’s episode is about decisions
  • Giovanna has been a notorious, neurotic decision-maker
  • A lot of people suffer from the agony of making decisions
  • Please leave a comment or feedback on the She Rises website
  • At the center of all your stresses is YOU
  • Call in your higher self or source
    • Ask yourself a question—a decision that is pending, or something that poses a challenge for you
    • Ask the spirit or higher guidance to come and help us in this process of tapping in
  • How did the process of tapping go for you? How did it affect you?
  • The very place we need to go is usually the place which is the most difficult for us to connect
  • Making quick decisions is something that eludes Giovanna
  • Tapping into yourself is an exercise to know yourself within
    • Cultivate and develop your ability to go into your quiet space
    • People are so entrenched in the external world that they forget to listen to their internal world
    • Your relationship to yourself and your relationship with your source is MOST important
    • Trust in yourself is important for making decisions
  • Giovanna shares a quote from Deepak Chopra, The Book of Secrets: Unlocking the Hidden Dimensions of Your Life
  • Look at the Universe or Source from a different perspective other than suffering the consequences of making a wrong decision
  • Indecision gets you stuck
    • Where is your indecision keeping you stuck?
    • How is does your indecision manifest in your life?
    • A Course in Miracles’ has a lesson that says, “If I make no decisions by myself, this is the day that will be given to me”
    • In your willingness to find the answer, you need to acknowledge that your ego and logical thinking is actually the one making the decision
    • The decision that is made from logic and intellect is NOT from a place of peace and clarity
    • Learning principles and then, applying principles are TWO different things
  • Take a moment and connect with yourself
    • Write down whatever question comes to you
    • Make 2 columns – write your fears on the left side, and on the right, write the possibilities or outcomes
    • What is influencing your decision-making?
    • Willingness to ask and seek the answer to your questions is very powerful
    • Acknowledge that you do NOT know the answer
  • The sense of “knowing” is in the foreground and the small voice within you is usually placed in the background
  • Indecision is a byproduct of not trusting yourself
  • Intuitive Action and Massive Action should come together in every decision
  • Exercise your decision-making muscle by spending at least 10 minutes in the morning and 10 minutes at night tapping into your Higher Self
    • Your mind’s job is to constantly be working
    • Notice your thoughts happening, but don’t shut them down
    • Invite your guide
    • Let go of your decision BEFORE proceeding to try and answer it again
    • Surrendering your decision and asking your guide for the answer is KEY in this exercise
    • When you get distracted, catch that you’ve gone astray and bring yourself back
    • Trust that you can connect with your intuition and Higher Self
  • Simona, today’s caller, is having trouble keeping herself accountable in tapping in and for not being committed in meditation
    • At first, Giovanna had to schedule her tapping so she wouldn't forget
    • She uses an iTunes album called, I Am Wishes Fulfilled Meditation Recording to help her set in
    • Make tapping part of your personal routine
    • Say and vocalize your invitation to your guide
    • Simona realizes her mistake is not inviting the spirit to come and help her
    • Waiting for the answer means you’re not in total surrender
  • The outcomes are not always the things we expect to happen
  • Remember that decision-making is a topic MOST people struggle with
  • Check out the resources mentioned at She Rises website

3 Key Points:

  1. Everyone struggles making decisions—so don’t be discouraged in thinking it is only you.
  2. Decision making requires you to tap into your inner self and call upon your Guide, so that you can make a decision that comes from a place of peace and clarity.
  3. Be willing to surrender your own thoughts and your own ability to rationalize an answer to your question.

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Shannon Confair - Mastering Visibility

September 19, 2017

Shannon Confair's journey is one of true inspiration and courage. Shannon was working in the daycare her son was attending when she encountered her first entrepreneurial opportunity—being the photographer at her boss’s friend’s wedding. From that point forward, Shannon learned what it meant to own her craft and BE the professional photographer that she wanted to be as she journeyed onward towards her dreams. Tune-in to learn how Shannon navigated her business while raising her children. She emphasizes the importance of knowing yourself, knowing your target audience, reaching out to your community, and increasing your visibility—all the things that have contributed to Shannon’s success.

  • Today’s episode guest is Shannon Confair
  • Just recently, Shannon had Giovanna on her Facebook live show where they talked about Giovanna’s work surrounding women
  • Shannon has a unique perspective seeing through a photographer’s lens
  • Please send us your feedback and comments at the She Rises website
  • Shannon was a teen mom and has been a photographer for 12 years
  • She took a different path – she worked in the daycare her son went to
  • Her boss knew she loved photography
    • She covered for her boss’ friend’s wedding because they could not afford a professional photographer
    • Her boss told her, “If you want to be a photographer, you have to call yourself a photographer”
    • The wedding was a hit and Shannon started booking business from there
  • Own and claim what you want to be
  • Shannon had two more children and continued building her business while homeschooling the kids
    • Homeschooling gave her the freedom to run her business as a mompreneur
    • Shannon realized there isn’t really any perfect balance
    • She plans her schedule in a way that everyone gets what they need
    • When it feels off, adjust and move on
    • Make priorities, have a vision and figure out the steps to make things happen
  • 7 years ago, Shannon and her family had to make a move to a new area
    • She thought her business would boom, but it fell flat
    • An online ad teaching one how to book brides was key for Shannon to take the next leap
    • The program was $250—which was a large amount for Shannon at the time
    • It was the best investment Shannon ever made for her business
    • Shannon doubled her business that year
  • After a few years, she burnt out on weddings so she dove into the online coaching world
    • Shannon booked her dream brides because she was clear enough about where she wanted to niche down
    • Knowing who you are and who you want to serve can dramatically increase your business
    • She started a brand called Wildly Successful Moms, which she never monetized and came to realize she was missing photography
    • She combined both the things that she loved; this birthed her current business model
  • Shannon, like Giovanna, also had difficulty in putting herself out there
    • Overcoming her visibility problem has allowed Shannon to help so many people
    • One of Shannon’s biggest challenges was people thinking she was a fraud
    • It wasn’t until she immersed herself with women that she realized they were all the same; they were all on a journey
    • Joining certain communities helped Giovanna to step out
    • Create better thoughts
  • Before taking a single photo, Shannon discusses the vision of her clients want and how they want to be perceived by the world
    • Shannon’s brand strategy always starts with a vision
    • She spends a day with her clients to really get to know them
    • “It’s like they finally see themselves for who they really are”
    • Giovanna prescribes a photoshoot to her clients to capture their best moments so they can remember that they ARE that person, even if they don’t feel like they are at certain times
    • Giovanna is an amateur photographer herself
    • See yourself as the beautiful person you are, regardless of whether you’ve put on weight or not
    • It’s important to have a photographer who has experience with women
    • Your weight is NOT who you are. You are not your body.
  • Shannon strongly believes that her purpose is to make a difference in this world
  • Watching people come alive by using their own gifts and talents to make a difference in the world is one thing that Shannon is very passionate about
  • The lesson that took Shannon the longest to learn is accepting the fact that she is still learning
  • Struggles might look a little different from person to person but everyone has them
  • Watch Giovanna guesting on Shannon’s Facebook Live in the She Rises Tribe Facebook Group
  • Check out She Rises website
  • Review and subscribe She Rises on iTunes

 

3 Key Points:

  1. Believe that you ARE the person you want to be—and it will happen!
  2. Striking the balance between who you are and who you want to serve will help you grow your business dramatically.
  3. The type of struggles may vary from person to person; but the fact is, we all have them.

 

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Devon Bandison - The Evolution of Fatherhood

September 12, 2017

Devon Bandison is one of the most sought after success coaches in the world. He works with Fortune 100 Companies and people from all walks of life, including professional athletes and teams, CEO’s, salespeople, small business owners, the top business and life coaches in the world and parents. Devon was born and raised in New York City and shares the same energetic heartbeat, big personality and commitment to excellence as his hometown. Growing up, his love and hard work in sports resulted in him receiving a basketball scholarship to a school in North Carolina.

After graduation he spent years working in the trenches for a non-profit organization, developing programs for youth, families and first-time fathers in some of the toughest neighborhoods throughout NYC. As Director of this organization he supervised social workers, psychiatrists and managers helping to improve the lives of children and families. He also served on various city and state committees to improve service delivery throughout NYC. Devon continued his education by earning a B.A. in Psychology and Masters in Public Administration.

Devon is now CEO of the Devon Bandison Company, a global coaching organization that specializes in high performance and transformation. He provides leadership development, training and coaching to professionals who want to achieve more in life, at home, at work and in the world. Devon is an international and TEDX speaker and fatherhood thought leader whose work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post, Inc. Magazine and Success Magazine. He is the creator and leader of the Game Changer Mastermind Group and of various workshops for leaders who are ready to play all-out in life and business.

Devon is the proud father of three wonderful human beings who teach him way more about life and love then he could ever teach them.  You can catch him with his children at Friday Night Pizza Nights, Basketball for Breakfast, and rap concerts. Connect with Devon at www.devon.bandison.com.

In this episode, Giovanna introduces Devon Bandison, a prominent success coach and Tedx speaker. His book Fatherhood Is Leadership: Your Playbook for Success, Self-Leadership, and a Richer Life provides a fresh, modern take on fatherhood. The role of a father is no longer a no-nonsense, authoritarian approach. Instead, it is about bringing in influence, impact and intimacy into your relationship with your children. While a good father does not shy away from showing his flaws and vulnerability, he is also a role model to his children. Tune in as Devon Bandison, a father of four, shares his own story of discovery into the role of a father and how his insights break the mould of traditional parenting paradigms.

  • Giovanna quotes Kahlil Gibran on raising children which describes the philosophy behind Devon’s book: Fatherhood Is Leadership: Your Playbook for Success, Self-Leadership, and a Richer Life
  • Devon has been invited to this show to discuss his thoughts on fatherhood which are against the age-old paradigms
  • Leave a message for Devon on the She Rises website, or connect with Giovanna or Devon on Facebook
  • Intent of writing this book was to make a positive impact on people’s lives—stupendous response has catapulted this book to number #1 on Amazon bestsellers
    • Devon hopes that his book will help out one father, one family and one community at a time
  • This book manages to elicit tears as well as laughs from Giovanna
    • Realized that women are so wrapped up in their own worlds that they fail to understand the trials of the men in their lives
    • Helped her look at her father as a flawed person, and enabled her to let go of a lot of resentment that she had harbored for years
  • Unable to cope with the death of Devon’s grandmother, his father turned to drugs
    • Devon blamed himself for his father’s plight
    • Relationships with parents majorly impact the decisions you make and stories you create in the initial years of your life
    • Made a promise to himself to be a better father to his children; however, when his daughter was born, Devon had very little knowledge of how to be a good father
    • Unable to show his vulnerabilities, Devon suffered in silence for a number of years
  • Developed programs for non-profits working for the betterment of at-risk or at-hope youth, as Devon puts it
    • Made a big impact on some of the toughest boroughs of New York
    • Mistake to take on a high-paying position in downtown Manhattan on the insistence of the Vice President
  • Slumped to the lowest point of his life while going through a difficult divorce
  • Ran into David Allen—known for his time management method, “Getting Things Done”—who egged him on
    • Coaxed Devon to come for a 3-day retreat in Ojai, California which turned out to be best decision of his life
    • David asked him two prodding questions, ‘What would you put 10,000 hours into?’, and ‘What would you do if money wasn’t as issue?’
    • Coming to know of Devon’s passion for fatherhood, David encouraged him to build a business around it
    • Within 9 months, he got a chance to host his own TEDx Within 2 years, he was able to quit his job and start his own coaching practice
  • Has managed to mend bridges with his ex-wife two years into a difficult divorce
  • Men need space to be authentic and display their vulnerable side
  • Explaining the “Cup and Saucer” analogy
    • Men serve families, their jobs, their friends and their communities
    • Eventually their “cup” becomes empty, leaving them overwhelmed
    • Through his book, Devon explains how men can fill their cup, which overflows into the saucer – their children, their families and their communities
    • “Be the best version of yourself, so that it trickles down to everybody around you”
  • Performance, security and mortality are the three things that men struggle with the most
    • Inherent desire to be the best is coupled with a tendency to hide vulnerabilities
    • Men are hesitant to get relationship insights from women; there is a need to overcome this mindset
    • Constitution of men is such that they wish to protect their families emotionally, physically and financially
  • Expecting too much out our relationships ultimately leads to disappointment and resentment
    • Free yourself of resentment by cultivating gratitude—children need to realize that their father did the best he could with the tools he had
  • “The deepest and truest sense of forgiveness is the realization that there was never a transgression”
    • Developing a forgiving nature will free you up from the bondage of the past
    • “Music is not in the notes. Music is in the silence, in-between the notes”
    • Avoid reading too much into people’s words to prevent disagreement
    • No need to seek validation from your friends and family. Cultivating a forgiving nature will help you develop a mindset where you will believe that everything is right just the way it is
  • Parenthood has evolved from an authoritarian, no-nonsense approach to a vulnerable one
    • Influence, intimacy and impact are the key factors to being a great father
    • Rather than your title, the influence that you have over your children is what makes you a great father
    • Need to move from a “Do as I say, not as I do” approach to a “Do as I do and do as I say” one
    • A great father actually walks the talk
    • Intimacy translates to “In to me you see”. A good father does not shy away from hiding his shortcomings from his children and treats his children as his greatest teachers
  • A good father helps his children retain their individuality, and guide them to be the best possible version of themselves
  • We do not have a fatherhood crisis, but a relationship crisis
  • Devon is helping men become better version of themselves so that they can show up and be better leaders in their families, communities and outside in the world
  • “You can change the world one conversation at a time, one relationship at a time and one kind act at time”
  • Look inwards for success in your relationships and professional life, and it is sure to reflect in your exterior life
  • Devon talks about the special bond that he shares with his first-born, his daughter
    • “Unlike others my dad wasn’t the first heartbreak, but he was the one who showed me unconditional love”
    • Having a daughter changed the way Devon looked at women and he has learnt a lot about life from her
    • Reached out to Real Dad’s Network with a heartwarming letter, and Devon got the “Real Dad of the Year” award
    • Having a secure childhood has negated the need for his daughter to look for validation from other men and friends
  • Learn to let go of your children, and let them make mistakes. This is simply a learning process, and in no way a reflection on your parenting skills
    • Learn to look upon failure as an opportunity to better one’s self
    • “Give them a break, allow them to grow, allow them to fall short, and allow yourself to do the same”
  • Recounting a near-death experience while flying from San Antonio, Devon shares that in that moment all that mattered was his children, his relationships and his loved ones. Devon was grateful for the transformational work that he had done and the legacy he was leaving his children
    • People spend all their time trading time for money only to wish at the end of the life they could give the money back for more time
  • The lesson that took Devon the longest to learn is that everything that is in this moment is exactly how it is supposed to be
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3 Key Points:

  1. Men need to display their vulnerable side to their children; parent out of a place of vulnerability and intimacy with your children.
  2. Free yourself from disappointments and resentment by cultivating gratitude.
  3. Don’t wait until the end of your life to realize the importance of family, friends and your relationships.

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Giovanna Capozza-Something To Think About

August 23, 2017

In this bonus episode titled “Something to think about”, Giovanna shares with listeners various ways you can regain your enthusiasm for life. We often move through the ins and outs of life with very little time to reflect. Reflection enables us to look beyond the noise that fills our day, and see the very things that bring us life, joy, enthusiasm, and gratitude. Giovanna invites listeners to stop what we’re doing and ask ourselves the very questions that center us—are we finding joy in what we do? In our work? In our relationships? Tune-in to find the value of a taking a self-assessment and to hear a few guiding questions that will help you along the way.

  • Today’s bonus episode is titled “Something to think about”
  • Sundays for Giovanna
    • Loves quiet Sundays
    • Giovanna has just returned from the market and spent time listening to some inspirational podcasts and read some books
    • She was inspired to reread Paulo Coelho’s Alchemist after listening to his podcast
  • Everyone has a calling, a purpose and mission
    • Not all of us may find our true calling
    • Your mission may be right under your nose and you are just not seeing it
    • The main purpose of every person is to cultivate love and gratitude
  • In this fast paced life, we tend to forget that the purpose of any activity is to bring us joy
    • Are you experiencing joy through your work and relationships?
  • Use enthusiasm as your compass
    • Enthusiasm is a spirit-guided feeling
    • Need to assess whether your enthusiasm for life is intact
    • Take care of your health
    • Indulge yourself with some quiet reflection time
    • Aim to experience moments of gratitude, joy, wonder and inspiration
  • “Life is a mystery and we can just do the best that we can”
  • Take a step back and look at what you are creating in your health, relationships and work
    • Look for avenues that bring you joy and enthusiasm
    • “Create your own compass”
    • External factors may bring you “success”, but not necessarily happiness
    • Avoid inundating yourself with outside noise
    • A “Digital Sabbath” might be a good idea. Try to minimize the use of technology
    • Indulge in honest self-assessment and determine whether you feel joy and gratitude every day
  • Giovanna is off to London for a two-week break
  • “She Rises” will resume in September
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3 Key Points:

  1. The main purpose of every person is to spread love and gratitude.
  2. Taking a “Digital Sabbath” is a great idea way to center you and give you the time to reflect.
  3. Indulge in an honest self-assessment and look for avenues that bring you joy and gratitude.

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Arielle Ford - Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate

August 22, 2017

Arielle Ford has spent the past 30 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. Her book, Turn Your Mate Into Your Soulmate offers a groundbreaking shift in perception showing couples how to have a deeper and more fulfilling relationship. Her latest book is Inkspirations: Love by Design: Coloring the Divine Path to Manifest Your Soulmate the world’s first transformational coloring book.

Arielle has been called “The Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love.” She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband and soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends. Her website www.soulmatesecret.com.

Today’s guest, Arielle Ford, answers the questions that have been troubling couples since the beginning of time: How do you find your soulmate? How do you effectively deal with your differences? Known as the “Cupid of Consciousness” and “The Fairy Godmother of Love”, Arielle shares her relational wisdom with listeners today and gives us insight into her own journey in finding and sustaining love. She’s author of the bestselling book The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of your life with the law of Attraction which provides a step-by-step guide for finding love. Tune-in as Arielle shares various insights which will help you turn your mate into a soulmate.

  • Arielle has spent the last 30 years living and promoting consciousness
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  • Finding true love
    • At the age of 43, Arielle realized that she had spent all her energy towards building her business and ignored her personal life
    • Arielle applied processes and rituals that had helped her with her love life
    • Within six months, Arielle met her future husband, Bryan—they have been married for 19 years now
  • Discovering her lack of partner skills
    • She quickly figured out that bossing around her alpha-masculine husband was not a good idea
    • Growing up in a middle-class, dysfunctional family did not help hone her relationship skills either
    • Committed herself to being a student of love
  • Our relationship skills or lack of them can be attributed to all the role models in our life
  • Having proper communication skills is critical for turning your mate into your soul mate
    • Bryan often complained that Arielle was “not listening” to him
    • Bryan is the youngest child and has a need to be heard
    • Arielle is the eldest child and she is a terrible listener
    • Arielle quickly realized that she had to learn to listen to Bryan
    • Arielle still has a hard time turning her body to Bryan, looking him in the eye and listening in a proper manner
  • Come up with creative solutions to iron out your differences
    • “You can either be right or you can be in a relationship”
    • Avoid correcting your partner
    • “It is absolutely normal to have differences in a relationship”
    • “Every couple has a minimum of 9 irreconcilable differences”
    • Creative solutions, not compromises, will help you deal with differences
    • In a compromise, one partner tends to let go, whereas a creative solution is a win-win situation
  • Arielle favorite line from the A Course in Miracles: “The only thing that can be lacking in a given situation is that which you were not given”
  • Thinking positively will surely help you find the love of your life
    • “The only thing that keeps us from getting all the love that we desire is our own limiting beliefs”
    • Attempt to consciously get rid of negative thoughts
    • Positive thoughts are much more powerful than negative ones. A few positive thoughts have the power to cancel out hundreds of negative ones
    • “Be the guardian to the doorway of your mind”
  • Having firm beliefs about your love life will affect your actions in a positive way
    • We draw to us the people, places and experiences that match our state of being
    • Your actions are nothing but a reflection of your beliefs
    • Having a firm belief that you are connected with your soulmate will prevent you from being casual about your sex life as well
  • Arielle’s secret sauce to manifestation is “Feelingization”
    • Only visualization does not help you attain your dreams
    • Arielle’s facilitates this concept via meditations which she calls “head to the heart”
    • Experience feelings of love and gratitude in the present moment
    • Access free content on “Feelingization” on Arielle’s website
  • Aim for mature, adult love by being more accepting of your partner’s idiosyncrasies
    • The feeling of love where you are in a chemically induced state lasts, on average, 6 to 18 months
    • Real, mature, adult love is a behavior or a practice
    • When you are in a mature relationship, you choose to act lovingly even though you are upset with you soulmate
    • “You are in the right relationship when you start off as a ‘dream come true’ and it evolves into your most horrible nightmare”
  • Finding perfections in our partner’s imperfections is the concept of “wobby, sobby” love
    • Make the perception shift and deal with your partner’s imperfections
    • People want to be loved for who they are
  • Arielle shares a “wobby, sobby” AH-HA moment
    • In one of her “wobby, sobby” workshops, Arielle came across Stephanie who was having issues with her husband, Garth
    • Stephanie was a stickler for cleanliness whereas Garth was a total slob
    • Stephanie hated cleaning up after Garth
    • Arielle asked Stephanie whether she still loved her pet dog in spite of the fact that she had to clean up the dog’s shit
    • Stephanie realized that Garth could not help being a slob, just like her dog could not help having to shit
    • Stephanie realized that Garth being a slob is not a reason to love him any less
    • Their relationship improved, Garth quit his job and started a home-business so that he could be with Stephanie 24 x 7
  • Dealing with your soulmate’s emotional shut-downs
    • Men need to go into a “cave” when they feel they are feeling emotionally low
    • Going into a “cave” helps raise their testosterone levels
    • Women should never attempt to follow a man to his “cave”
    • Women tend to shut down emotionally as they can’t express their anger
    • Being a “pleasure puppy” can help a man or woman deal with an emotional shut down
    • Women can build oxytocin, and men testosterone by being a “pleasure puppy”
    • Women can get a foot rub, head massage or go out with their girlfriends. Chopping wood, exercising, watching or playing sports is the best way to build testosterone for a man
    • Arielle advises getting professional counseling if you are in a hard spot
    • Deeper Dating is a great book for all gay couples wishing to sort out their issues
  • Add God in your relationship and discover true magic
    • The missing link in most relationships is the lack of the divine
    • “You can’t sit on a chair with two legs. But you can sit on a tripod that has three”
  • “In typical arithmetic, one plus one equals two. But in soulmate love, one plus one equals eleven, and your love blesses the world”
  • InkSpiration is a unique coloring book which helps manifest love for your beloved. Coloring is an oxytocin booster and by doing this activity, you can make a visual representation of the desires that you have for love
  • Listening is the thing that challenges Arielle the most
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3 Key Points:

  1. Aim to find creative solutions, and not compromises to iron out your differences.
  2. Arielle is a proponent for “wobby, sobby” love which involves finding perfections in imperfections.
  3. Find the divine in your relationship and discover true magic.

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Ramona Astrid Bernardi-Girl Talk with Soul

August 15, 2017

Ramona is a 200hr RYT, and teacher of Embodied Energy Medicine. She has studied alternative health and wellness for over 17 years. ​The time is now for all of us to come together, with our hearts ablaze from the inside out. Activating one another to ever greater levels of peace, love, joy, and connection. Having received several light initiations via deep trance meditation and diving deeply into my cellular matrix, I believe we are ready to ignite our inner diamond fires which will assist in creating a ground swell of vibrant love for this planet and each other.

We have come to depend on technology for every aspect of our lives—our social lives, work lives, and day-to-day living involves us plugging into our phones or computers. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of believing we are run by technology, when, in actuality, we still have the power to dictate how and when we employ its use. In today’s episode of She Rises, Giovanna and Ramona Bernardi discuss the importance of replacing media with silence; connecting with one’s self as opposed to connecting to technology. Tune-in to learn why staying in control of technology and its uses gives us the time and space to reflect on the matters within.

  • Giovanna is sharing her recorded conversation with Ramona today
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  • Ramona is Giovanna’s soul sister
  • This weekend, Giovanna engaged in a media blackout, she silenced all her technology
    • As soon as Giovanna disconnected, she felt her breath return
    • She noticed her addiction to food and eating
    • “Boredom itself is disconnection of source”
    • How can you be bored if you’re present in the moment?
    • Giovanna challenged herself to go into the dark for 3 nights
    • Her inspiration for this came from a conversation with a friend; she wanted to connect herself to God
    • Giovanna also recognized she had a trigger point in the dark
    • The first night, Giovanna experienced panic and terror
    • Her third night was the best night for Giovanna
  • Boredom is a coping mechanism—it happens when Ramona is not stimulated
    • “Boredom is just resistance to connecting with yourself”
  • Try to put yourself in silence for a weekend
  • Giovanna shares about the book she read, The Power of Receiving
    • We cannot receiving anything unless we are in a receptive state
    • The word that came to Giovanna when she meditated was ‘receiving’
  • Ramona experienced so much transformation in the weeks her mother was away for a trip in Europe
    • Ramona learned to embrace her inner child and realized she was growing into a mother herself
    • When her mother returned, Ramona saw that she was becoming more of a woman rather than a child
  • Gift yourself space and reflection to connect to yourself and see what needs healing
  • We aren’t taught how to deal with our feelings
    • We get rewarded for suppressing the feelings
    • Learn to parent the child within
  • Ramona shares about the children’s book, How to Love Myself and Others
    • Fill yourself first, before you give to others
    • Human beings don’t have the skills to really connect with themselves, especially with all this technology and media around us
  • Ramona recognized the toxicity of social media in her life, so she disconnected
    • “It wasn’t an easy transition”
  • How can you remain IN CONTROL rather than be controlled by what’s around us?
  • A Course in Miracles teaches us how to pay close attention of when we allow the ego to take control of us
  • Ramona wants to revive the art of conversation
    • We’re losing the art of conversation as a human race
    • Pop culture is and has always been the focus of young adults’ conversations
    • Giovanna and Ramona miss the freedom of childhood, before the invasion of technology
    • Resistance to technology vs Bridging the gap with technology
    • Beyond the benefits of using technology for emergencies, what do we really need our phones for?
  • Take a breather when you can
  • Allow yourself to rest – it is YOUR right
  • Rest is the only way people can recharge to be the light that they are

3 Key Points:

  1. Give yourself the time and space to reflect and connect with yourself—this is how you can discern what needs healing in your life.
  2. Emotional intelligence is not explicitly taught to us throughout childhood.
  3. Technology can be both constructive and destructive – the result depends on us and the reasons why we use technology.

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Jennifer Racioppi - Know Your Cycles, Know Yourself

August 8, 2017

Jennifer Racioppi is the founder of the Lunar Logic Revolution, a movement for the modern woman so that she can achieve her dreams in complete alignment with the fullest expression of herself. The Lunar Logic Revolution involves embracing both the spiritual and the scientific—a combination of astrology, intuition, wellness research, and strategic best practices—so that we can emerge from a place of wholeness and steadfast resilience in the face of everything that this crazy magical fast-paced world has in store. Jenn’s methodology helps women access their voice, make sense of their emotions, own their feminine power, and create a foundation of strength and fortitude as they move towards business success, financial empowerment, thriving relationships, and their most significant life goals. In addition to being a sought after astrologer, Jennifer is also a Duke Integrative Medicine Certified Health Coach. She's also studied positive psychology under Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar and Dr. Maria Sirois, as well as women’s health with experts Sara Gottfried and Jessica Drummond.

In this episode of She Rises Podcast, Jennifer Racioppi shares her life story fighting ovarian cancer from a very early age, which resulted in a total hysterectomy in her early 20's. With no cycle or road map to navigate... she turned to the sky! This life threatening experience led her to the discovery of astrology. In this episode,  Jennifer breaks down the fundamental concepts of astrology and how it made her stronger after such a devastating blow to her health. She discusses specifically the different phases of the moon in relationship to a woman’s menstruation and ovulation cycles. Tune-in as Jennifer argues that a basic understanding of these concepts will help women gain incredible insight into the hormonal changes and emotions that occur within their cycles. She shares what it takes, as women, to become intentional creators of our lives and why free will—our thoughts, actions, and habits—are the true, determining factors for our future.

  • Jennifer’s battle with cancer led to her discovering astrology

    • Jennifer has an excruciating life story
    • She was tomboyish as a child and as she entered her teenage years, she had a hard time coping with her menstruation
    • Her periods were long and painful which led to Jennifer having a dislike for her gender
    • Doctors failed to recognize that there was something dysfunctional about Jennifer’s body until after graduation, when she suffered from acute pain
    • It was discovered that there a gigantic tumor in her left ovary and she was diagnosed with stage one ovarian cancer
    • Integrative medicine was not present in the late 1990’s
    • Jennifer unfortunately had to undergo a hysterectomy which rendered her infertile and postmenopausal
    • There was no one there to explain to Jennifer the meaning of menopause
    • She was just a young girl out of puberty
    • Jennifer felt deceived since she was saddled with a bunch of issues due to her cancer treatment
    • Jennifer moved to California in a bid to improve her health
    • She discovered the phases of the moon during this period of life
  • Jennifer’s introduction to astrology
    • Discovering astrology was an intense spiritual experience
    • She learnt about moon phases from her Ayurveda practitioner who is a Vedic astrologer and a Tarot card reader
    • Jennifer learned to track time through planetary rhythms
    • She started making astrological predictions
    • Astrology taught Jennifer how to manifest and see in the dark
    • She was opened to “A life of magic”
    • “Life is about getting stronger”
    • Jennifer started taking astrology seriously after 2009
    • She found her true calling and has taken up astrology as a full-time profession
  • In astrology, there are four elements: earth, air, fire and water
    • Earth to earth is a manifestation
    • Fire and water is not an easy combination since two different beings are attempting to cooperate with one another
    • Complementary signs, like earth and water, are considered good from an astrological point of view
    • Every sign has an element associated with it
  • Jennifer explains the different phases of the moon
    • New moons happen when the sun and the moon are aligning at the same exact degree in the sky
    • The moon is receiving the light of the sun and reflecting it back to earth
    • Full moon is when the sun and the moon are in opposite directions
    • The moon is receiving the light of the sun and reflecting it back to earth
    • Waxing moons and waning moons are caused at different rhythms of time
    • Knowing which element the new moon falls under will increase the depth of your understanding of astrology
  • Jennifer explains the close interrelation between human emotions and phases of the moon
    • Human beings are mostly water, and the moon has an effect on the tides
    • So, using this logic, Jennifer states that the phases of the moon would have a profound impact on human beings
    • Emotions are energy in motion, and the atmosphere affects our emotions
  • Jennifer urges women to get a sense of where they stand hormonally
    • For ovulating women, it is important to understand the rhythm of your cycles
    • How do you feel in the period between of menstruation to ovulation?
    • How do feel in the period between ovulation to menstruation?
    • Are your menstrual and ovulation cycles aligned with the new moon and full moon?
    • Do you have energetic patterns that are in sync with the phases of the moon?
    • Jennifer feels more in control of her emotions during a full moon
    • Deal with your anxieties by understanding the phases of the moon
    • “The menstrual cycle and the moon cycle are exact mirrors of each other”.
    • If women can realize that their menstrual cycles are dependent on the phases of the moon, then this awareness is true power
  • Working with subconscious needs by challenging our inner rhythms and hormonal rhythms
    • We can become intentional creators of our lives
    • Human beings are complex and have subconscious needs
    • Anticipate hormonal changes with regards to the phases of the moon
  • Learn to deal with imperfections with grace and dignity
  • “If we can start to lean into the revelation, rather than fear it, how productive can we be?”
  • “Success is knowing who you are, being who you are and truly have consciousness around how we are behaving”.
  • “No need to fear the difficult”
    • We can be better because of it
    • We need some pressure points that create an angst in us which will drive us
    • We need to get into “flow state”—an adequate amount of challenge catapults us into a “flow state”
    • Thoughts, actions, behaviors and habits are more powerful than what is going on in the atmosphere
  • “No matter what the chart says, no matter what the stars are doing, we still have this thing called, ‘Free Will’. It is how we dance. It is how we respond. It is how we contour our strength and capacity, our sense of sovereignty and our sense of dignity”
  • Jennifer recommends that users download the 2017 Moon Guide
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3 Key Points:

  1. The four elements and their complementary and opposing forces can provide insight into who we are and with whom we are compatible.
  2. Understanding your hormonal changes with regards to the phases of the moon will provide you better insight into your body and emotions.
  3. Thoughts, actions, behaviors and habits are more powerful than what is going on in the atmosphere.

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