Tina Alexis Allen-Hiding Out: Drugs, Deception, and Double Lives

July 17, 2018

Actress and playwright Tina Alexis Allen's audacious memoir, HIDING OUT: A Memoir of Drugs, Deception, and Double Lives (Dey Street Books, On Sale: 2/20/2018, ISBN: 9780062565679) unravels her privileged suburban upbringing as shaped by her formidable father—a man whose deep Catholic faith and dedication to his large family hid his true nature and a life defined by deep secrets and dangerous lies.  Imagine it—the moment many closeted young adults dread—when your stern, devoutly Catholic father discovers you are gay.

The youngest of thirteen children, Tina Alexis Allen grew up in 1980s suburban Maryland in a house ruled by her father, Sir John, an imposing, British-born authoritarian who had been knighted by the Pope. Sir John supported his large family running a successful travel agency that specialized in religious tours to the Holy Land and the Vatican for pious Catholics. But his daughter, Tina, was no sweet and innocent Catholic girl. A smart-mouthed high school basketball prodigy, she harbored a painful secret: she was attracted to girls. When Tina was eighteen her father uncovered the truth about her sexuality. But instead of dragging her to confession or the family priest, her father simply took her hand and said, "I buried my lover, Omar, in the war" making Tina his unlikely confidant and creating a clandestine bond that would evolve into become a web of secrets and lies.

On this episode of She Rises, host Giovanna Capozza interviews Tina Alexis Allen.

  • Tina explains why she chose to write her book now, and details her “she rises” moment.
  • Once she understood herself, Tina was able to write and perform shows about herself.
  • Tina is the youngest of 13 kids and grew up in a devoutly Catholic home.
  • Tina explains her coming out to her father and her father’s big revelation.
  • Giovanna and Tina discuss how relationships changed between Tina and her family when her dad became her confidant.
  • There were more secrets going on in her family life that were not apparent to her.
  • Tina’s father was travelling to Russia in the 1950’s and she starts to put the pieces together.
  • Tina is still waiting for her father’s information to get released to the Secret Archives of the papacy.
  • Tina talks about her writing process and how it unravelled.
  • We have an obligation to see our parents as human beings.
  • The point of the book is to give the reader a sense of freedom to put a mirror up to their own life.
  • Tina talks about where she is now with her relationship to her faith.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • I asked myself “If I could be anything, what would I be?” and I gave myself permission to answer.
  • Keeping secrets is intense, you’re hiding beneath the pressure of not being who you really are.
  • Yes, we can see mistakes and learn from them, but it’s not our place to judge.

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Manorexia

July 3, 2018

On this episode of She Rises, host Giovanna Capozza recaps her thoughts on the No-Man Diet, and how she experienced “No-Manorexia.”

  • Giovanna recaps the episode of She Rises where she interviews Kendra Cunov.
  • The No-Man Diet allows you to take a break from relationships and see what your patterns are.
  • When Giovanna’s mom passed away she started to ask, “who’s going to love me now?”
  • Giovanna realized that she had toxic love addiction.
  • There’s a pendulum with relationships, you might experience “no-manorexia.”
  • The mission of coming into sacred femininity, you need to be cautious of blocking out opportunity for relationship.
  • Being closed off to relationships changed her levels of creativity and inspiration in business.
  • When we close down feminine energy, that turns into lack of receptivity.
  • Why being off balance could cause you to miss out on life.
  • How to use the She Rises podcast as a conversation starter.
  • Feminine and masculine energy applies to any sexual orientation.
  • Ask yourself how these principles apply to business or even non-romantic relationships.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • One of the primary questions I answer in my upcoming book is, “who’s going to love me now?”
  • When you make the commitment to find self reliance, you still need to be open and vulnerable to the masculine.
  • When we close down feminine energy, that turns into lack of receptivity.

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Kendra Cunov - The Art of Deep Intimacy

June 20, 2018

Founder of Fierce Grace: Practices of Embodied Wholeness for Women, Kendra Cunov has been studying, facilitating, and (most importantly) practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for the last fifteen years.  Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression. She co-founded Authentic World, as well as The Embodied Relationship & Intimacy Training Salon, and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet.

Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & is currently on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world.  She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success - in business & in love.  www.kendracunov.com

On this episode of She Rises, host Giovanna Capozza interviews Kendra Cunov, the founder of Fierce Grace, co-founder of Authentic World and the Embodied Relationship and Training Salon. She works with organizations, leaders, men, women and couples who know that presence, truth, connection, and integrity are our truest access points to success in business and love. Kendra and Giovanna discuss the No-Man Diet.

  • Kendra provides a synopsis of what the No-Man Diet is and how it came to be.
  • Kendra discusses the awarenesses that led her to complete her own No-Man Diet.
  • There are two camps of women when it comes to facing a period of not dating.
  • Learn why there’s a difference between making a conscious choice not to date and not dating because of a lack of opportunity.
  • Discover the two pieces that commonly come up during the No-Man Diet.
  • Learn how to assess whether you could benefit from a relationship detox.
  • Kendra and Giovanna discuss how you may be turning all of your partners into the same kind of person unconsciously.
  • We create spaces in our lives that are known and comfortable, even when they’re not what we want.
  • Why removing the thing you desire makes it more possible in the long run.
  • Learn what people can hope to gain from the No-Man Diet.
  • Doing the no-man diet in an effort to have your dream relationship kind of defeats the purpose.
  • How your relationships with women might change and strengthen throughout the No-Man Diet process.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • When we have massive resistance to giving anything up, it points back to addiction.
  • You’ll keep drawing into our life what you have an affinity for.
  • People who truly take the No-Man diet on usually find the partner of their dreams soon afterward.

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Monique DeBose - Living Fully Expressed

June 6, 2018

LA native Monique DeBose is an award-winning, multi-talented playwright and Jazz-R&B-pop singer/songwriter, who has toured and entertained audiences throughout Europe, India and Asia.  Her third album–The Sovereign One–is scheduled for release in Fall 2018. A leading vocal improvisationalist (having studied under Rhiannon and Joey Blake of the renowned Bobby McFerrin Voicestra), Monique now leads an international community of over 500 vocal artists throughout the United States and Europe. Inspired by her experience of of what it means to be half African American, half Irish American, she wrote the funny, heart-warming and disruptive one-woman show Mulatto Math: Summing Up The Race Equation in America to initiate conversation and heal race relations in America. She tours around the country, performing the show and facilitating workshops on identity, race and belonging.

Monique facilitates experiential workshops as well as individual coaching for people ready to live a fully expressed life. She holds a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology and a BA in Mathematics from UC Berkeley. Monique calls LA home, is married to a Brit and is raising two compassionate, culturally intelligent boys.

On this episode of She Rises, host Giovanna Capozza interviews Monique Debose, LA native, award winning multi talented playwright, and jazz R&B pop singer-songwriter who has tour across India and Asia. She now leads an international community of over 500 vocal artists across the U.S. and Europe.

  • Monique discusses how she wanted to be seen growing up and came to realize she wasn’t showing up.
  • Monique talks about what happened between growing up and becoming a successful playwright and jazz singer.
  • We are often living lives of quiet dissatisfaction with is a tiny death to the soul every day.
  • You have to keep taking steps forward even when it feels painful and raw.
  • You can live so much in your own world that you forget what people see on the outside.
  • You don’t need to spend your time fitting into something that is not you.
  • One of Monique’s super powers is being observant.
  • If you’re not belonging somewhere, is it because it’s not the place for your soul’s journey?
  • Monique talks about bridge culture and how two polarities come together.
  • Answer who you are in the world to activate the parts inside that need to be awoken.
  • Monique talks about the value of community and sisterhood when taking the time for yourself.
  • Learn how to explore deeper layers of self-expression.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • Things happen in their perfect timing.
  • I cannot not express, my life literally and figuratively depends on it.
  • Michelangelo didn’t carve David, he just removed what was holding it back from its full potential.

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Sandra Elia - When Food is the Drug

May 17, 2018

On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozza speaks with Sandra Elia, certified food addiction counselor, CTI certified wellness coach, radio show host, and vice-chair for Toronto chapter of Canadian Obesity Network.

  • Our brains are being constantly transformed and programmed and are prone to addiction.
  • Sandra used food to feel numb and escape and it made it the darkest time of her life.
  • Sandra and Giovanna talk about how to assess whether you’re a food addict or not.
  • Our food system is being engineered to be addictive.
  • Food hits all three neurotransmitters: dopamine, serotonin and endorphins, most drugs only hit endorphins.
  • The two biggest recovery tools can be exercise and meditation.
  • There’s a spectrum with food addicts, then in a different class are emotional eaters, how do you know the difference?
  • Food addiction touches four parts of our brain – learn how to know the difference between the two.
  • Sandra explains “food pushers” and how to deal with them.
  • There are no downsides to eliminating ultra-processed foods.
  • See food as food and see the rest of the junk as chemically engineered food-like substances.
  • Start an unconditional love affair with yourself.

Tweetable Quotes

  • When you try to stomp out sadness, depression, loneliness, you also stomp out joy, happiness and feeling.
  • Today the food industry is pouring billions of dollars to make sure food is highly addictive.
  • We can only control our behaviors, we can never control the number on the scale.
  • My weight is none of my business.
  • Everybody flourishes in an environment that is gentle, kind, and encouraging.

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Suzi Kory - Becoming a Rockstar

May 1, 2018
  • It’s hard to believe that it was just over a year ago that Suzi Kory recorded her first songs with producer John Angus MacDonald of Canadian rockers The Trews. Since then, she has played the Whisky a Go-Go in Hollywood, opening for LA Guns as well as having played a festival in Brazil ! In less then a year, Suzi has made a name for herself in Los Angeles as well as back home in Toronto and has Canadian Music insiders taking notice. As a mother of two teenage boys with a full-time job as a Customer Service Manager its hard to believe she still has time to be a Rockstar, but is she is proving how it can be done! Suzi is currently working with producer Brent Woods in Los Angeles on a full length album and has her sights set on no less then a Grammy come 2020.

    On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozzaspeaks with Suzy Kory, member of the band the True’s and full-time customer service manager and mother of two.

    • Suzy talks about how she became a rock star in her 40’s.
    • When Suzy told her parents she wanted to be a performer at a young age, they were not at all open to that.
    • When she got married and had kids, everything she had planned for herself got put to the wayside.
    • You have to take the first step of making your path clear and taking small actions to achieve your goal.
    • Suzy tells the story of how she met Axl Rose from Guns N’ Roses.
    • If she can achieve something people thought was crazy, everything else is within reach.
    • Anything is possible if your faith, courage, and conviction is aligned in your soul.
    • Suzy got to meet Steven Tyler and spend time with his entourage – this was when she realized she was manifesting these amazing experiences.
    • People often tell her she’s so lucky, but she’s working constantly – people don’t see what goes on in the background.
    • Whatever you plan can come back way better than your original plan.
    • When you take a step forward in faith the universe gives you your desires and then some.
    • You don’t have to take your passion on a public level, you can do it just for yourself.

    Tweetable Quotes

    • Who we are is who we are, and our parents can’t change that about us.
    • A little bit of our soul dies when we don’t honor our calling.
    • When you make that realization that you are the one who decides where your life is going, that’s when all the doors open.
    • When you’re fulfilling yourself, the rest of your life lights up.

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Corinne Zupko - Transcend Anxiety Now

April 10, 2018

Author Corinne Zupko, a licensed counselor and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction teacher, undertook her study of psychology out of necessity when debilitating anxiety threatened to derail her life. Seeking ways to do more than temporarily alleviate her symptoms, Corinne began to study A Course in Miracles (ACIM), mindfulness meditation, and the latest therapeutic approaches for treating anxiety.  As Corinne healed her own mental anguish, she compiled the perception-shifting process she describes in the enclosed advance reading copy of From Anxiety to Love: A Radical New Approach for Letting Go of Fear and Finding Lasting Peace (New World Library, February 14, 2018).

“In these pages, I describe the process I used to work myself out of terror and into an anxiety-free life,” writes Corinne. “And by working that process, I’m now doing things I never thought I would be capable of: taking plane trips fearlessly, and without medications, by myself; speaking confidently in front of large audiences; traveling into New York City by myself without feeling completely overwhelmed; sleeping like a baby instead of having horrible insomnia; and awakening without early-morning anxiety. If I can experience such radical changes in my life, so can you.” From Anxiety to Love helps readers learn to undo anxiety-based thinking by internalizing the teachings of ACIM, fostering mindful shifts in their thoughts and actions, and connecting to their Inner Therapist, the deeply gratifying, enormously comforting inner voice that affirms our safe oneness with the universe rather than our ego’s perception of danger and separation. Whether struggling with everyday stress or near-crippling discomfort, readers will find that Corinne’s approach offers a new way of healing from — rather than just coping with — fear and anxiety.

“Inner peace is not an event: it’s a process. It’s not something we attain once and keep forever, but rather an experience that continues to deepen to the degree to which you’re willing to get out of the way and allow peace to move through you,” writes Corinne. “I promise that you are worth the effort. I’m imagining that we’re holding hands in our shared commitment to undoing anxiety. Let’s do this.”

Corinne Zupko, EdS, LPC, is the author of From Anxiety to Love. As a licensed counselor and keynote speaker, she has helped thousands of individuals through her one-on-one counseling, weekly meditation classes for corporations, and the largest virtual conference of ACIM in the world, through the organization Miracle Share International, which she cofounded. She lives in New Jersey. Visit her online at http://www.FromAnxietytoLove.com.

On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozza speaks with Corinne Zupko, author of From Anxiety to Love, a Radical New Approach for Letting Go of Fear and Finding Lasting Peace.

  • Corinne was stuck in anxiety for most of her life and was diagnosed with separation anxiety at a young age.
  • After crippling anxiety attacks in college, she found A Course in Miracles and she began to peel herself out of anxiety.
  • Most people have at least low-level anxiety even if they’re not always aware of it.
  • We have to be honest with ourselves, and then we have to find our willingness to bring out miracles.
  • Giovanna and Corinne discuss New Age Guilt and how the Course’s teachings are actually leading us out of guilt.
  • In our experience of love and peace, that’s where trust builds, and anxiety has to fall away.
  • Spiritually bypassing our feeling doesn’t work, we have to fully acknowledge and fully feel our feelings.
  • Your anxiety and fear are a projection of the part of your mind that is in wrongmindedness and is syncing with the ego.
  • Corinne talks about calling forth witnesses for fear and love and provides an example.
  • We have the choice to repurpose every experience we have in our lives to be used by the ego thought system or the inner therapist.
  • Even good experiences can keep us identified by the small self, not just bad experiences.
  • Being willing to let go, see differently, and see peace that is independent of our circumstances is possible.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • The root cause of our fear is that we’re separate from divine love.
  • Many people walk around in a state of unease.

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Silvia Christmann - The Entrepreneurial Journey

April 6, 2018

On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozza speaks with Silvia Christmann about living her dream while being conscious of her wellbeing.

  • Her core values revolve around two defining factors – her need for adventure and personal freedom.
  • Silvia began creating her own reality from a very young age – a self-described opportunist.
  • She was picked up by a serial entrepreneur and discovered that building businesses was her sweet spot.
  • Silvia talks about the chaos she’d invited in leading to her grounded spiritual journey.
  • She was a sickly child and has always had a fragile immune system, making her an outsider.
  • Silvia talks about making the choice between her ambition and her wellbeing in New York.
  • Women are living in a world where they’re asked to submit to a patriarchal system that tries to stop them from following their ambition.
  • You have to step back, slow down and make sure what you’re doing is aligned with your sense of joy and wellbeing.
  • Silvia talks about things that get in her way other than ambition and making her “hell yes” a more thought through reaction.
  • She works with both high-achieving people and people dealing with scarcity mindset and fear.
  • Silvia discusses how women need to believe that their time and contributions are valuable.
  • A lot of the problems around unconscious bias is just that, it’s unconscious.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • People tell you that you can’t travel around the world by yourself as a woman, I’ve never found that to be true.
  • If you listen to your body whisper, you’re never going to have to listen to it scream.
  • I find great joy in living dangerously.
  • Dream big, but run the numbers.

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The Science of Fulfillment

March 20, 2018

On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozza discusses the science of fulfillment.

  • Part of Giovanna’s personality from childhood is a constant underlying dissatisfaction.
  • In the past, being an ambitious woman was not an acceptable thing.
  • Ambition and dissatisfaction made Giovanna a seeker.
  • Fulfillment can have two different drivers/sources: emptiness,
  • A “runaway from” goal is when you’re trying to run away from a feeling, a cup with a hole at the bottom.
  • A “run toward” goal comes from a cup that is fillable and can overflow.
  • The plaster that plugs up the hole in your cup, is your relationship to yourself and the universe.
  • If you don’t have your own sacred sovereignty, you’ll constantly be trying to fill a cup with a hole at the bottom.
  • Start creating a practice of awareness and start noticing if you’re trying to fill a cup with a hole.
  • Find out what the child inside is trying to get filled and validated.
  • Start looking at how the science of fulfillment is manifesting in your life.
  • Studies show that the effects of stress on the body creates inflammation.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • “Your ambition to succeed is not bad.”
  • “We lead a life where we’re constantly seeking if we don’t repair the relationship with ourselves.”
  • “Curiosity leaves an open door, judgement shuts the door down.”

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Christina Miglino - Navigating your Emotions

March 6, 2018

Christina Miglino is an empowerment coach, spiritual counselor and artist who has traveled all over the country and Canada as a Public Speaker. She has hosted and taught many workshops on empowerment on the west coast. As an intuitive hand-poke tattoo artist too, Christina loves to incorporate the tattooing process into these teachings of initiation for women. Here work has been featured in online publications, blogs, and on multiple podcasts because of her unique story and empowerment work!

Christina is passionate about supporting women in gaining emotional awareness, stepping into their power and listening more to their intuition so that they can have the life and business that they have always imagined.

She currently has open enrollment for her 6-month, Emotion into Motion, 1 on 1 coaching program!

Current project:

On this episode of She Rises, Host Giovanna Capozza interviews Christina Miglino:

  • Christina discusses her health journey as a child and surviving a deadly brain tumor.
  • As a child doctors tried to modify her behavior to treat her extreme pain instead of treating it.
  • She describes the moment where she shut down and felt that she had no voice.
  • A vision of angels came to her and delivered a message of perseverance.
  • An herbalist woman was able to identify problems and save her life.
  • How it’s taken years for her to get her voice back and how she took steps to do it.
  • Over and over again she does the really hard thing and she perseveres.
  • She’s not finally able to launch her own program and be a spiritual counselor.
  • Her mission is to help female visionaries who are letting empathy hold them back.
  • Her emotion in to motion program helps women move away from defining themselves with emotion.
  • Giovanna and Christina discuss how to unblock emotion and let it flow.
  • Recognize that your emotion is going to change, have no fear and meditate.

Tweetable Quotes:

  • “Mental illness is a spectrum.”
  • “What if we lived in faith that things would be okay?”
  • “Women are powerful, and their stories are powerful.”

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